How many of us were "late bloomers"?

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Registered: 03-26-2010
How many of us were "late bloomers"?
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Sat, 07-31-2010 - 3:51pm
Someone (marie, maybe?) mentioned that she was a late bloomer, i.e. didn't date around a lot when she was younger and married the first person she got serious with later.
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Registered: 08-30-2009
Sat, 07-31-2010 - 4:11pm
I am definitely a late bloomer. Married at 21 to my first love with no sexual experience whatsoever. My desire to have an affair was out of curiosity of what it would be like to be with another man.
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Registered: 06-01-2010
Sat, 07-31-2010 - 4:28pm

Hi jane,


I am also a late bloomer, got into a 10 year relationship with my 1st serious BF when I was 19. Not had much experience before that, then when that ended had a 7 year relationship. Not sure if there is a connection its an interesting question. As I am a SW maybe its different for me than those that are M. I'm 41 now and at a point where Im wondering if i'll ever get

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Registered: 05-21-2010
Sat, 07-31-2010 - 9:26pm
Not a late bloomer here...got married at 18...divorced at 21 from my first husband...then spent about 9 months sowing my wild oats:-) so to speak.

Definitely had alot of experience and was ready to settle down when I married my H. We have been married now for almost 14 years...
LouLou
LouLou
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Registered: 02-06-2010
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 3:38am
i think this is a very good question. i do wonder how the lack of experience i might have had in my 20s could have shaped my decisions later in the life choose a different partner. i was so ienxperienced and afraid, and my H was the best of the lot when i met him in high school. i didn't have any other real long term relationships save him. there was dating, and fooling around, but no other long term relationship opportunity for me to figure stuff out, re: what i wanted, what i didn't. of course i can't explain this to him now to justify my current actions could i? i do know that my first AP married his wife, 6 years younger than him and she had extremely limited sexual/relationship experience as well. she is beautiful, and well-educated but limited in her ability to show physical appreciation, which he expected would improve with her age. or he thought he could "train" her, but that turned out badly for him in that area. they have a wonderful family and a lot of fun together, but physically, if f there ever was any chemistry between the two of them, it has fizzled terrigly. my current AP married , i swear at 23, and his wife must have been 18 (they have been married 23 yrs now). strict religious backgrounds for both of them,
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Registered: 05-03-2010
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 11:04pm
Not me ;).

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