How many before you found the one?

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Registered: 02-19-2013
How many before you found the one?
Fri, 03-15-2013 - 6:44pm

Hey Y'all,

I have been at looking for a AP online since then end of Dec.  I have met so many guys and duds.  Well, now I am juggling 3 potentials (MM).  I call them Nice Guy, Up State and Rico Suave.  Nice Guy (NG) I hve know the longest.  He is just that a nice guy.  He is quirky and really smart.  He is not aggressive but we have been intimmate once.  We still communicate but I think he needs a friend more than a lover.  Then there is Up State because he is from upstate New York.  He is a sweet guy and very alpha male.  He is very clear about us being exclusive. He have not been intimate but have a day planned at the end of the month.  Then there is Rico Suave who is a mortgage banker with a spanish accent.  He is so stinking cute.  I have been intimimate with him, too, recently.  Although, physically he is on par something is missing.

I have come the conclusion that I want more than sex but definitely a sexual relationship.  NG is too noncommittal.  I fugure if I am going to risk an affair it needs to be what I want.  Rico Suave is more of a NSA and I don't want that.  Thought I could...nah...can't.  I am married and not looking to leave but I need more than just sex. So, that leaves US who calls me his girl and beautiful and emails me good morning and good night.  We eat lunch togther at the park and he kisses like heaven.  I really hope it works out with him. 

We'll see.


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Registered: 03-15-2013
Sat, 03-16-2013 - 7:54am

Haha CSF - I had to comment as I just wrote that my AP uses exactly the same 2 terms - his girl and 'beautiful' on me. I think US sounds like he best option :) good luck and keep us updated!

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Registered: 12-03-2009
Sat, 03-23-2013 - 12:48pm

Up State sounds like my AP.

Over 3 years ago I went on AM and a few "dates" until I found my current AP. 

I needed more too.  And I guess so did he.  Things betwen us have gotten very intense lately.  Be careful what you wish for.  This is now very confusing and painful at times.  But other times...  it's so wonderful.