how much do you think my AP told him?

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Registered: 06-08-2007
how much do you think my AP told him?
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Sun, 08-24-2008 - 7:10pm
i'm curious to get opinions on this. i know my AP co-worker, we'll call him jason has seen my AP and i together before. at first AP would get paraniod if jason had seen us together, but then he seemed less stressed and more comfortable. well last week he left something in his old place of work that he needed, and when i called him he asked me before i stopped by to see him if i could run over and get it from his old place of work. i told him yes i would, and let jason know i was stopping by. he said he already told him that i might be picking up something. i'm wondering how much jason really knows. they are very close, have been friends for years.

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Registered: 07-23-2008
Sun, 08-24-2008 - 7:21pm

I wouldn' like to say....but hope it all turns out ok for you....

(((HUGS)))



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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 8:16am
any one else have any ideas. do you think your AP would tell their co-workers or friends. i know he knows something, but i wonder how much.
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Registered: 08-16-2008
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 8:22am

of course!!! Men also need to talk to others too. Men confide in close friends and family. YOU should ask HIM. Just be careful that he wasnt making you a butt of his jokes...men brag about their sexual conquests. Ask him what this guy knows.

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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 8:39am
i doubt he would tell his family. for the first year of the affair those 2 worked very closely together. for about 8 months into it he would never let jason know that we even talked. example he worked on a pc of mine, i needed to pick it up last summer, it was august a year ago. i said i would pick it up on wed, but he needed one more day on it. he freaked when i said i would pick it up on thursday because jason would be in. he made it work some how for jason to come in later so i could pick it up and him not be there. fast foward to winter in dec, he's ok with jason seeing AP and i hanging out and talking, now he's ok with me picking something up for him, and getting it from his old place of work where jason works. i know he trusts him, but if he innocently tells some one something, and that person figures it out. bad things could happen for the both of us.
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Registered: 08-16-2008
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 8:41am

Maybe in got to know Jason better and trusts him more now. Just ask AP, that is the only way you will know for sure. I am sure Men discuss things with friends. Hopefully your AP knows Jason enough and Jason would keep his mouth shut. Does Jason know your husband or AP's wife? If not, I wouldnt worry. I dont think your AP would take the risk if he wasnt sure




Edited 8/25/2008 8:43 am ET by nygirl824
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 9:12am
they have a history together that goes back for some time. he knows his wife and his kids. he's been to his house, he helped AP install some things in his home. this is how close they are. i'm going to ask him, but i wanted some input here first. i was shocked that he asked me to over there like that. so jason knows that we talk to each other on the phone. jason doesn't know my husband at all.
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Registered: 02-22-2008
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 9:31am

The only person to answer your question is your AP !

Edwina
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 9:55am
i see jason it least 2 days out of the week. he still works where my AP use to work. it feels kind of freaky i guess.
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 12:23pm

Like the others have said, the only one who knows is your AP and you will have to ask him.

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Tue, 08-26-2008 - 9:15am
actually thinking about it, 2 of his friends have seen us together, jason his co-worker and a very good friend of his that stops by to see him almost on a daily basis at work. yesterday again for 2 days he's working at his old location, the other guy is sick, so he's taking over for him for a while. i stopped by to say hi, and (i'll call him john) walks in to see him also. i said i guess i'll leave, and AP said please don't go, stay. i did for a while until a client came in, then i left. he must feel safe with those 2 knowing what ever they know. both of them have seen us together alot. i feel strange being around them though. AP doesn't seem to mind, is rather comfortable .

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