How much pain am I in for?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2009
How much pain am I in for?
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Wed, 07-15-2009 - 1:42pm

I've posted here before and I've been back and forth on this issue.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2005
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 3:56pm

Go to my post on Should I Stay or Should I board called "What would YOU do?".

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2005
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 3:59pm
AMEN and AMEN!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2005
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 1:44am

awesome reality.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2009
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 11:35am

I suggest you go over to EAS and read the thread on ddays and imagine it happening to you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2007
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 3:47pm

Wow you got really good responses! I think you answered your

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2008
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 1:07am
i absolutely agree with people who are telling you how it could hurt everyone involved.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 10:46am

I am just one more person chiming in to tell you not to do it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2008
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 3:09pm

Hi,


You have gotten really great advice from all of these ladies.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2008
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 3:47pm

First of all, you have no idea what he really "feels". If I had a penny for everytime I thought a man looked at me with "feeling", I could retire rich, and believe me, rarely was there really any feeling involved, except maybe the feeling of wanting to get laid. Look, most men know exactly what to say and how to behave when they want to get a woman into bed. They're not stupid. They know we'll fall for the looks and words and assume love and give them what they want.


Secondly, I'm years out of my affair and it still haunts me. If you have no intention of leaving your H, as I did, DON'T DO IT. It never goes away. I thought I got off scott-free when I ended it with no D-day. Wrong. I've heard through the grapevine that exAP has been asking about me again after I thought I got rid of him for good, and I've been having dreams for months now that he's going to go to my H. All after six years out of it! Every so often for one reason or another, the whole topic just rears its ugly head and it feels like there is no way to get completely out. My marriage is doing great now and I wish I would have just spent the time with a therapist to deal with things rather than get involved with someone else.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2007
Sun, 08-02-2009 - 7:45pm

Hey curious543 just wanted to let you know that your post gave me goosebumps! Certain parts hit home for me!!! I'm also