How Often Do You Get To See Him?

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Registered: 05-06-2003
How Often Do You Get To See Him?
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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 7:53am
How often do you get to see your MM? And for how long?

I'm bummed today. I've been seeing mine almost weekly sometimes for 1-2 hours. Last week I saw him three times. This weekend he says he's got too much going on.

Was I spoiled or what? I'm going to miss not seeing him.

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Registered: 09-07-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 8:01am
MY MM AND I WORK TOGETHER SO WE SEE EACH OTHER 3 OR 4 DAYS A WEEK, BUT WE ONLY GET PRIVATE TIME 1 OR 2 DAYS. IT'S HARD BECAUSE WE ARE BOTH M. SOMETIMES WE DO SEE EACH OTHER MORE AND THEN THE WITHDRAWL SYMPTOMS ARE TERRIBLE. I DO UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. BUT YOU ALSO NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT IF THIS IS TO BE KEPT A SECRET THEN YOU EACH HAVE TO CONTINUE YOUR NORMAL LIVES AND NOT MAKE THINGS OBVIOUS.

HOPE THIS HELPS

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 8:03am
I see mine 3 or 4 times a week - only for a few mins at a time. Unless we can catch up with each other on Sat and them sometimes we spend 2 hours or so together.

He is out of town all this week and I'm going out of town all next week - so that will make two whole week we can't see each other. Then when I'm back we both have committments that will keep us busy for another two week!!! So we won't be seeing much of each other until the middle of Oct. :(

We still e-mail and call but it isn't the same as a hug

Hang in there

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Registered: 05-06-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 8:40am
I work with mine as well. Sometimes we see each other at work in meetings and such, or passing in the halls. Plus we do email each other every day, and usually text pages on the weekends. So we talk in some way at least every day.

He's M and I'm S, which makes it harder b/c I have more freetime than he does. But I'm pretty sure he's in the process of working out a separation agreement w/the W, so things may be a little harder on him at times than others.

Guess I am spoiled and lucky. It's just hard because I was looking forward to seeing him if not today sometime this weekend.

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Registered: 08-24-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 10:54am
Since my beloved lives about 250 miles away, very seldom. Our affair is new, only having been together 3 times since the end of July. I imagine we will see each other no more than once a month for a few hours, and as the winter comes, and his excuses for coming here wane, less and less.

It breaks my heart, but what can you do? This is our situation.

Legs

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 11:11am
-I see OM three times a week during work...about 7-8 hours each day. Then we have about an hour, sometimes 2, alone on those same days. And most weeks, I will pop by work on one of my days off for something I forgot or that I need to do to be ready for when I return, or whatever, and I will see him about 1/2 hour then, but no alone time that visit. We talk on the phone every day during the week. We email most every day during the week, too. We have NC after work hours on the weekend.

Lucky

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Registered: 09-07-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 11:58am
AS I SAID BEFORE I ONLY SEE HIM AT WORK, AND WE CAN ONLY TALK AT WORK. I CALL HIM AT WORK AND HE CALLS ME AT WORK WHEN WE ARE BOTH NOT THERE. ALONE TIME IS VERY LITTLE BUT AT LEAST GETTING TO TALK TO HIM IS WORTH IT.

LOL

HANG IN THERE...WE ALL KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE!!!
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 1:04pm
My OM is married, but I have a live-in BF that is best friends with my OM. And right now, the OM is living with us (temp)! So I see him everyday!

I saw him everyday before he moved in too. So I guess that doesn't really matter.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 2:12pm
yes, we all know what it's like - those NC times stink!

Im M and OM is engaged. We get to see each other atleast an hour every week, sometimes every 10 days. We talk almost every day or make some sort of contact. With the new baby on the way, unfortunately I think his time will be even more limited next year. Huntin season is coming soon so that will give us ALOT of time together in the evenings and on weekends. OM and DH both hunt so H goes out in the woods and OM says he's going out in the woods, PERFECTION! LOL

Liberal

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 3:18pm
I see my OM at least twice a week when we work together. However, this is kinda new for me, has only been going on for about a month and 10 of those days he was gone out of town. But since it has been going on, I see at least once a week but at the maximum two out of work and at his house.
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Registered: 05-07-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 4:12pm
i see MM everyday, Monday through Sunday. During the weekdays i see him after work for dinner and etc. and come Sat. & Sun. we are together the whole day!

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