How often do you have s*x with H.....

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Registered: 05-21-2003
How often do you have s*x with H.....
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:27pm
it's been almost 3 months for me and my h. I was just wondering how normal this is. We only have s*x about every 2 to 3 months. My MM on the other hand can't seem to keep his hands off of me. H says it's because were both so tired at the end of the day but I just can't imagine that always being the excuse. I thought most men wanted it ALL the time. In 8 years I have NEVER turned h down.
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Registered: 09-03-2003
Wed, 09-03-2003 - 3:59pm
Usually twice a week, but the MM in my life has sex less often with his wife. He feels that he'd rather have one night of great sex with her once every week or every two weeks than to have "quickies," as he calls them, every couple of days. It's about quality over quantity. Still, every two or three months is a long time for a man to go. Does he have a low sex drive? Are you sure he isn't having an A? Not to cause trouble...I don't know where you'd stand with that...but a decrease interest in sex in a marriage is generally a sign of that, isn't it? Especially for men... Seems like I read that somewhere.
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Registered: 05-21-2003
Wed, 09-03-2003 - 4:11pm
I didn't think it was normal. I could only wish that he was having an affair ALSO! Thanks
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 4:16pm
Another thought--how old is your H? And, more importantly, is he on any kind of new medication? My H started some medications a year or so ago that markedly decreased his sex drive. He is also much busier at work than he ever has been in his life, and he IS getting older!! All of these things can contribute to decreased sex drive also....
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Registered: 07-29-2003
Wed, 09-03-2003 - 4:22pm
Do you tink it is because you smell? Not being mean, and I am saying this in the context of after you are with your OM? I know the first thing I do is come home and shower! My husband would be able to smell "sex" like a bloodhound. Then he would wonder why it wasn't with him! Men!

Hugs!

Tinker

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Registered: 06-26-2003
Wed, 09-03-2003 - 10:16pm
Dear Secret,

I hate to turn on my bretheren, but a lot of

men do seem to loose interest. There are a whole

lot of factors that can affect this. Yes medications

are one, especially blood pressure (The thing works

on blood pressure you know). Alcohol, work, self

esteem, all of these and more can play a role.

In many ways women do have it easier in this

department. W and I have gone far further than

you and H with NC. It works both ways...

3 months is a long time for most men though.

Just my thoughts...

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Thu, 09-04-2003 - 4:19pm
The last time H and I...

Was around July 1st... of

this year. So, that's a

little over 2 months.

It's been awhile! ~passion