How often do you see your MM

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Registered: 01-23-2004
How often do you see your MM
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Mon, 02-09-2004 - 4:16pm
just want to know from everyone how often do you get together sexually? do any of you go for lunch with your MM or just talk on the phone? and how often?
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Registered: 11-19-2003
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 8:46am
I'm posting mine so you all will feel better about yours...because I think I'm pretty much at the bottom on this subject. In the beginning probably 5 e-mails per day, saw each other about 4 times per week where he worked and he would come and talk to me all the time. That lasted until he got fired. Now for the last 9 months, everything is my initiating, saw him one time, im now and then, get a reply e-mail every now and then. I call him, he always is just going out to lunch or in a meeting or another call on the other line. Then at the last minute late at night last weekend he wants me to come over, my H was home so I can't, then gets so weird on me and slams the door on im. Yeah, sucks huh, and to think I waited 23 years to have this affair. C
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 1:07pm

CL-Gurlfriend50

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 1:56pm
How often? It all depends on if/when he can get away. I used to live an hour north of where MM is located, so our meetings had to be much more planned out so that I could drive down here to be with him, or he'd have to lie and arrange his schedule to pass through that part of the state on his way to somewhere else....Now, it's much more at the drop of a hat.

Usually, he calls from his car and he has some time, so he'll come over to my house. Other times, I've driven over to meet him at his office and we've had sex on the conference room table - ha ha! I've left work early and met him at my house... In January, I think we were together like three times, almost once a week which was very nice! :)

This will be a "slow" month since he was on a family vacation last week, this week he'll play catch-up, but next week we will be together since it's our one year anniversary! So maybe I'll be able to get him twice this month... we'll see.

We cannot go out to eat or even appear in public really - too much of a chance of him running in to someone he knows through his business. I've only seen him out once, but he was with his friend who is my "safety net" - the guy that I'm allowed to call or who will call me if something happens to MM (like an accident or illness), so I was able to see him in public that one and only time. Actually, our offices are about two miles apart, so we've talked about how we will respond if we do happen to run in to one another - I think it will be very obvious, as does he.

That's my story for the day! I hope that you're able to see your OM/MM often - as often as you want to, and that you're free to be out in public together. It would be nice!

Take care!

jpcstpaul (an old-timer)

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 2:49pm
hey now, play nice or we'll have to put you in "time out"!

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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 3:03pm
Well, lets see! We have known each other for about 5 years but only been involved in our EMA for 17 months. We see each other just about everyday. Sometimes we will spend the weekend together (but our spouses are with us). We talk several times a day and it starts with his "Good Morning" call at precisely 7:38AM. Sexually, we do the nasty about 3 times a week. Our general schedule is to have our Marathon Wednesdays at the local Hotel. Lately, I have been a little busy and unable to make the weekly funfest. However, I promised him last week that I would start making more time for him:):) Jess, I didn't realize how much we do talk or e-mail each other several times a day. Oh and we have adult beverages with our other pals at least twice a week. OK, I think I covered it all:):):) Dang, no wonder I wear a smile :):) NMR
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Registered: 02-03-2004
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 3:06pm
Sheesh.. I'm thinkin he needs to come prepared with more cash -- but having said that, I paid for the first hotel (and he paid me back). Don't you just hate thinking about money at all? There is no way I'd risk the car, so I'm thinking a hotel is the only way. The good thing for us is that we both travel enough that we can get away with the bills. I wouldn't trust a friend with the info.. that's just too risky.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 3:16pm
WE see each other once every week for "breakfast" - usually when both of us are off from work. Otherwise there is emails and text paging.
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Registered: 01-20-2004
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 3:37pm
We have been able to see each other almost every day since the A started. At first it was because I was friends with W and he was friends with my H so we'd all get together. Then, we were using stupid opportunities to sneak away. My H was working nights and he'd just wait for her to fall asleep and then leave (risky, I know). Then, I left my H (just last Monday and NOT for MM) and got an apt. So, now we have somewhere safe to go. His W and I got into a big argument and we haven't talked so she does not know where my new apt is. Before that we were doing it in the car (ouch) or once at a friend's house. We are usually intimate almost every time we see eachother, unless we are meeting for lunch. We are able to get away for lunch about 3 times a week. But, now he is leaving his W (not for me...I hope) and he was able to stay the night last night, which was very exciting. I'm sure we will both be seeing a lot of each other now that we are going through D's. But, we still have to keep it kind of hush hush since our DD's are good friends and in the same class at school. Plus, it would make the D very messy on both ends if our spouses found out!
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 5:19pm
Thanks cowboyguarantee for sharing . Not that I am happy that this is how it is for you ;-( ......but it does feel better that I am not the only one .

I think some of these MM are like babies , and they need to grow up ! ;-)

xoxo ViperDiva

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Registered: 01-23-2004
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 8:19pm
Viper, I can't believe how similar our MM are, everything you said is what I am going through also. What are you going to do about it? Today I seen him at work and he told me he is taking some kinda drug to help him stop smoking so I asked him if this is going to make him more grouchier than he already is lately.... I got a good laugh out of it and he says it won't. I told him in an email after that that I wanted to get together to talk soon about this whole thing cause I am ready to leave him alone for good, he called right after he read it and totally started studdering and then said he would call me later on my cell, so far no call. Now I have to be the little winer tonight if he calls.... I hate this, I have never had to chase a guy like this, Never! bastard knows it too.

I am so glad that others are going through the same thing as Viper and I. Its too bad that men just don't see it!!!! they really are from another planet. Common sense? where the heck is it? If I didn't shutter at the thought of becoming a lesbian I would in a minute!!!!