How often do you see your MM

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Registered: 01-23-2004
How often do you see your MM
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Mon, 02-09-2004 - 4:16pm
just want to know from everyone how often do you get together sexually? do any of you go for lunch with your MM or just talk on the phone? and how often?

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 9:00pm
don't know what I am going to do . ;-( For now I am going to wait until he contacts me again ( although it is very very hard ) .....lets see how long that will take him and what he will have to say for himself . I am tired of chasing him . Like you I don't have to chase guys , they chase me and he knows that too !!

I have told him many times if he doesn't want this A all he has to do is say so. but no calls no emails , I will not put up with that. I am not just looking for a sex partner no matter how good it is , no matter if it is the best sex I ever had ........ I also want a friend .and if he can't be a friend , and it is to much for him to call twice a week to see how I am doing well then maybe best he go back to his W and get from her what he gets from me ! HA ! Yeah right like that is ever going to happen .

Eventually I will get fed up asking him to call , if he can't think about it on his own , I will say good by ........of course I am sure he will promise me he won't do this to me again , behave for a bit and then again do it his way . What makes me mad is that I clearly asked him if how I want this A to be doesn't work for him ........, then how would he like it to be .........still no answer .It's not that I am putting my life on hold and just waiting for him to call . .......but damm I miss him !! Well now time for me to make him miss me . and if he doesn't then he doesn't deserve me anyways .

xoxo ViperDiva

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 9:14pm

Hi spoiled,


MM and I are usually in contact every day through email... there be up to 8 emails between us going back and forth depending on how busy he is and also what I've got on to.


We talk on the phone once a week... sometimes I'm lucky to get another... but mostly it's just the one.


As for seeing him... we average about once a month... but I haven't really seen him since about 2 weeks before Christmas bar a brief interlude in the new year.

Sweet
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 9:10am
We started a couple years ago, with seeing each other at a local hotel 1x a week. We mostly email and Im each other, he used to call me on phone alot. But that's long distance. Now we stick to IM's but we do that all morning and alot of time all afternoon long, back and forth as we are working (in different cities).

Really, if it were phone calls, I wouldn't be able to talk so much, it would seem suspicious at work.

Now our getting together schedule is a little hectic because of his work, but generally we get together at least 2x per month, we try for every week but that doesn't always work out!! We have a fav. hotel, he gets the room I just meet him there. The girls at the desk know me after this long, I just have to walk in they tell me "he's in room XXX".

Dusty
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Registered: 01-04-2004
Sat, 02-14-2004 - 3:24am
It was an interesting subject so I read thru all 25 messages. For me, I've the A for 2 years. We began by going to lunches but then made out in the car. I waited for about 1 1/2 years and just got intimate last May. I envy those here that can see each other several times a week. For my MM, he is retired (yes, he is 20 years older than me) and he is paranoid about being caught so is extremely careful. Since he doesn't need to work, he can't be out of the house all day long so we can only meet once a week (if I'm lucky) for lunch. When he is in town, he would call me on his cell once a day but it drives me crazy when he is traveling since I can't call if I know he is with his W.

I'm sure that I encounter the same frustration as many of you with a MM. My questions to some of you (if the question implies your experience)are:

1) where would you go if you're having sex in the car ? how can you avoid getting caught in broad daylight ? When we pull over for a kiss, we are nervous and have to find a quiet neigborhood and doing it in a car is almost unthinkable.

2) If we plan to get intimate, I would take a long lunch during the week and try different hotels but it is extremely hard to do an early check-in at noon. I get stress out trying to get the hotel to give me a room. Do you have the same problem ?

3) how does your MM sneak out on the weekends ? It is impossible to see my MM on the weekends since he has no excuse to sneak away for errands while his W is sitting at home.

My MM is now in another state escaping the bitter winter here and he will be down there for several months. He has only called twice and he complaints that the cell coverage is very spotty. He would call in his car while he is waiting his W to finish her shopping. For V day, he sent me some flowers and an email but no call today and I'm frustrated. I would prefer to talk to him for 5 minutes than staring at some roses.

sorry to ramble on but I guess I'm getting a little frustrated from being able to talk daily to twice in 13 days.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-15-2004 - 8:22pm
I see my MM every few weeks. It all depends on how busy he is. Sometimes we get to see each other once a week a few weeks at a time and others there are several weeks that go by between visits. We make love on average once every 2 or 3 weeks, sometimes there's a longer timeframe, and we also meet for lunch or a drink or coffee in the evening occasionally. Again, it depends on his schedule. He's usually much more busy than I am even though we are both parents and have home lives. He works long hours at times and sometimes has a strange work schedule. We chat online and talk on the phone fairly frequently.....maybe on average once or twice a week.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-15-2004 - 8:33pm
Answers to your questions, Main.....

1) MM and sit in his SUV after having lunch in the restaurant and we talk, hold hands and kiss a little. We don't do a really big make out session because you never know who might be driving by. Since we are fairly closely located to each other now, we have to be careful.

2) There are some motels that offer short stay rates. You pay something like $25 for 2 or 3 hours. MM and I do that instead of splurging on very expensive hotels. It's much better that way since we're not spending a whole night together anyway.

3) MM can't get out to see me on weekends either. He has certain obligations with his family and of course having children it does take up a lot of your time. I know that very well as I have spent a lot of time driving my daughters to various activities, attending sporting activities and doing things for them. Even though one is away at college now I still have a 15 year old at home.

I understand the frustration with hardly any contact. Keep your spirits up.

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 3:53pm
To Redhotlady,

Thanks for your reply. It may be easier for you since you've a family to keep you busy on weekends. I'm single and therefore have more free time on my own.

By the way, MM called me on V day while I was out shopping. It was the first time he called on the weekend and it was a nice surprise. He had sent me flowers on Friday but since I didn't hear from him, I was frustrated to think that he substituted his call with roses. I'm glad that he was thinking of me.

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