How Pathetic Am I!
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How Pathetic Am I!
| Mon, 03-02-2009 - 6:12pm |
Ok so I was on here several weeks back and told my story. Wife found out about us then proceded to call me and I told her everything. My xAP or whatever he is was mad at me for betraying him but forgot the fact that he had lied to me all along too. Well anyhow the last time I talked to the wife was last week and had

I think he's lying.
Since you have talked to the wife and told her all what does this man have left to tell you? That she is petrified of you - how crazy does that sound?
I think this is him just trying to play both sides.
If I were you I would go no contact - take back your power, get off the rollercoaster!
Hi Gabby,
There won't be no third, fourth, or fifth with me.. I know that for sure. But something inside me tells me that I need to let this rest and see what comes out of it. If he's meant to be with me then he will come back and if not then we both go our separate ways. I'm not
I think he is lying to you as well. I realize that just because it happened to me this way, doesn't mean it happened to you this way, but most will agree that it is not unusual for the AP to "throw you under the bus" once the spouse finds out. That is what happened to me. During my last conversation with my AP, who for 2.5 years told me he loved me and that he wished he were with me, not his spouse, told me that he was concerned I would hurt his wife/kids, that he was recording the conversation so I should be careful not to say anything I would regret, and many other hurtful things. Now, I know that he couldn't possibly believe the things the things he said, as he knows me and that I am not capable of what he accused me of. He was simply saying the things he said to his wife as a way of convincing her of who knows what to protect himself.
So, again, yes I think he is lying to you. And, you need to protect yourself. Trust your gut! You know truth and you need to be more confident in that knowledge so that you stop hurting yourself.
Good luck! I know it is so very hard sometimes to take care of ourselves, but if you don't do it, no one will.
And, for the record, you are not pathetic, you are just in pain right now.