How to Pull Back?

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Registered: 05-03-2010
How to Pull Back?
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Fri, 10-15-2010 - 2:55pm

Here's the long and short of it: aside from an early comment yesterday that he was sweet on me, AP was really grouchy yesterday.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 09-16-2010
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 3:16pm
Hey another....when you get the answer to THAT question, please please fill me in! We can tell ourselves to do it and close our eyes to anything, however we can't close our hearts....
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 3:53pm

How to pull back??? Hmmm.....AP says I'm a pro at this so what I usually do is slow down what I normally do

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 04-05-2007
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 4:00pm

Rayne is right.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 4:10pm

Slow down contact....check!

The last thing he said to me last night was to have a great weekend and to text him on Monday.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 5:42pm

I'm sorry he's been short with you.

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Registered: 10-09-2010
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 5:45pm

I totally agree 100% with what's been said. The minute you stop doing what you normally do , which he has become comfortable with and used to, you will see him panic and contact you. Let

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 6:35pm

Hi Another,

In my experience in order to "pull back" from any situation you 100% need to

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 6:52pm

One thing I've done that worked is to have a one way line of communication, ie all comms come through him first and you respond.. you can even just mention it that it's best that you work out comms thisway.. since he's the busy one, when he gets a hold of you, that means he has time for you..

You have to let go and let him initiate contact, I think.. and lead a life where, if he's there, it's fun, if he's not, you move on.. no big deal..

If you can't have him in your life on such a basis, you will continue hurting.. and when this thing ends, you will be harmed.. I think you are better than that.. and I think you can make him to be as you are to him..

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 8:31pm
janejosie wrote:

I'm sorry he's been short with you.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 8:37pm

Thank you for sharing your story with me jen.

That had originally been the plan this summer, to be on my own, to find myself, find out what truly makes me happy.

anotherseyes

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