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How should I bring this up?
| Thu, 05-13-2010 - 1:33am |
Hi, All!
I just realized that I posted last as Andalinka (my old screen name) so I apologize for any confusion.
| Thu, 05-13-2010 - 1:33am |
Hi, All!
I just realized that I posted last as Andalinka (my old screen name) so I apologize for any confusion.
OMG that is SO me! LOL!
It's probably an impossible wish to find out what's going on without putting yourself out there. Actually, asking exactly what you posted - "Hey, so what the hell is going on between us?" - is probably the very thing to write if you really want to know. But there's the hitch. You have to be willing to live with what you find out.
~Fingers crossed~ that what you learn is what you want to know!
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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I so feel your pain janejosie :)
I also want to have a version of "the talk" and also SCARED out of my mind to hear what he has to say...like you said, is it more in my mind than what he's thinking? We've danced all around it as well...there's so much "implied" and I often want some verification that my interpretation is correct. UGH!
I think we have to remember that **most** (I won't say all) men move slower emotionally. Not good for me because I'm a tad impatient :) I'm trying to hang in there, though, because I think I scared him off several months ago...we split for a while, so now I'm working REAL HARD to move at a snail's pace. Right now, he's worth it... and like you, I don't want to mess up what we do have.
It's a really tough call.
anotherseyes
Thanks for all the good feedback.
We were physical in the past. It hasn't happened this go-round, BUT he's been talking about it A LOT...we have to be VERY careful getting together...and I've pretty much been letting him take the lead on that part.
After our last physical time, I jokingly (yes, that "truth spoken in jest") told him it wasn't happening again until we had a "chat"...he actually agreed, said we needed to discuss some things, and then 2 weeks later we ended it and didn't speak much for 3 months. Now, I'm trying to take things SLOW...IDK, sometimes it's EXCRUCIATING, but I hope to have him in my life for a long time, so SLOW it will be :)
anotherseyes
I was friends with my AP for over 30 years before any physical thing happened. We never had IC.
I finally got the guts up and we had a heart to heart talk cause I was going out of my mind not knowing what the heck was going on.