How twisted is this???

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Registered: 05-24-2003
How twisted is this???
Sun, 08-31-2003 - 6:31pm
OM and I were talking a bit this morning about his relationship with the g/f. They have a very unconventional arrangement, to say the least. I'll leave it at that. Anyway, it's a lifestyle I've never led and, try as I might, I have trouble wrapping my brain around some of what they consider to be normal in a relationship. And I told him so (because, I'm thinking, if we do ever wind up together, I can't live like that, so he ought to know that now, in case it's a deal breaker!!). So, we talked about the philosophies involved in their decisions, etc. But it comes down to I think she's disrespecting him terribly and I said as much. I've never said anything negative about her - have even taken her side in a couple of things - except for this thing. And it's tearing me apart that this one thing in their relationship makes him so unhappy, but that he signs on for it.

How twisted is this that I'm mad at her for making him unhappy!!! I should be glad she is so that the choice between us will be that much easier to make when the time comes, but I hate the thought that he's sad and unhappy sometimes at home!!!

Geez, wish I'd get my head on straight!!!

Lucky