how & why do you have "the big talk"?

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Registered: 02-06-2010
how & why do you have "the big talk"?
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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 2:51am
i want my current AP to last for 11 yrs like our CL has achieved. i can not believe i met some one so amazing, bright, talented, and passionate as he is on CL. i also can not believe we have been playing cat and mouse with each other since july 08. he wavers, i feel guilt, he writes, i call. we suggest NC, and that doesn't work very well. i wish there was a handbook describing how these things play out. i wish i had a crystal ball. initially he wanted a casual encounter, neither of us wants to upset our home lives. how can a casual encounter last two years? i tried to close the door in july, but he told me he would miss me, would hate to lose our connection, has shared more with me than pratically any other woman on this planet --well, he wrote these things to me via email. we don't really talk about our "feelings" b/c... well i don't really know why. i try to stay practical about what i am doing and why, but goodness, he is gorgeous with such the perfect mouth. when u
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Registered: 03-26-2010
I thought about the questions I had in advance, so that I knew what I wanted to say.
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Registered: 05-19-2010
I can tell you 'how' to have the talk but why do you want to do when you dont know the 'why' you want to have the talk?
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Registered: 05-31-2010
We just kinda have the more in-depth talks because they just happen. I can't tell you how to start a talk like that. Our just kinda lead there when we have them, which isn't often. We try to keep ALL feelings out of this. I will say it is hard for me at times, but I'm doing pretty good at it.