How young is TOO Young??

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Registered: 04-23-2004
How young is TOO Young??
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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 11:21am
Recently there has been a new guy at work. At first we just did our jobs and what not then it sort of developed into something more. We flirt all the time and hang out after work and had sort of a mini date the other night...we went out for milkshakes and then drove around talking about children and careers and all kinds of things. It was so nice!

There are a few problems here though... I am going to be 21 in a week and he is still only 17.... 18 in June. Is he way too young??? Also, we are both in relationships... mine is of 4 years and I have been questioning it for a while now and he of 9 months.

When I lay all the facts down it just looks so wrong but when I am with him none of that seems to matter.

He is so complimenting, fun and everything my boyfriend is not. A co-worker actually asked me how my "boy friend" was. I said hes just my friend and he said no way looks like more then friends to me! This makes me think the attraction between us is so obvious!

I cannot get him out of my mind and all the signs that he is into me are there and its known that we like each other i think.

WHAT DO I DO???

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 1:20pm

Here are my two cents (I don't know how valuable two cents are anymore, but here goes...)


I know that it is 2004....but a lot of you "30-somethings" and older probably have parents who married very young who are either still married or stayed together for years and years.

cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 02-03-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 1:39pm
IS (and Omaha too)... Honey, this is not the normal business flow on the support board. I'm not sure what ugliness has happened in the past few days, but you guys really do seem to be under attack. I just want you to know that the majority of us don't feel the way these 'strangers' do. We are family here, and we support each other and care for each other and understand strengths and weaknesses are not based on age, moral character, sex, religion or any of the other myriad of things the world tends to judge us on. Also, I would like to offer this to the 'age is all there is to talk about' crowd. My H is 20 years older than me. The hand that was dealt us was unfair -- he became disabled (not age-related) at a relatively young age and I am now more caretaker than wife. But our bond is strong. I love him deeply and completely. Age was never never never an issue. In fact, I chose to be with him knowing that it might mean spending the end of my life without him. If I had to make the decision to be with him again, I would -- even knowing what hand would be dealt to us. Did I have to make some adjustments? Yes. Did he have to make some adjustments? Yes. But doesn't every couple come into a relationship with differences they have to iron out and compromise on. Don't let anyone tell you what is right for you. Only time can tell you that. There just aren't any guarantees, and you deserve to grab whatever happiness you can find.
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Registered: 01-14-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 1:41pm
Thank you for this Saturday.
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Registered: 04-21-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 10:48pm
you are all so wonderful... i can't thank anyone enough! omg... makes me feel sooooo much better.

THANKS!!

IS

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