how2 know when 2leave 1 for another?

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Registered: 02-21-2004
how2 know when 2leave 1 for another?
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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 2:47pm
I've been with my man for almost four yrs now and living together 3. He's been the greatest guy to me, but when there is stress he becomes the worst and takes it out on me. Fortunately, those times don't happen tooo often. Well during one of those horrible times,another man found out that my guy "Dumped me." He called me up and was saying that he would be there for me, we talked for a few minutes but I was like ok I have company right now so thanks. I did have company tho. I met this guy through my bfs dad. OM goes there often,so do we because my bf loves finally having a relationship with his father,his lifelong dream. What they all usually do is have good times and drink. This is OMs chance to flirt with me,when they don't notice. He would flirt with me every chance he gets but my bfs family is very protective of me and he knows it. OM always tells me that he really likes me, and wants to be with me and will take care of me and that I'm gorgeous and has a hard time keeping his hands off of me, when no one else is around of course. But how do you know when to leave current bf for another? I mean four yrs is a long time,esp for me. What if other guy doesn't last? OM has been on my mind LOTS,and I miss kissing him as we've done a few times now. I find myself wanting to be with OM instead of bf most of the time. And I really wanna get with him,u know what i mean ;);) Italian Stallion mmm lol. But he doesn't wanna go that far until we're together,he says he wants me all to himself. OM just makes me feel soo good and I miss that feeling and we would even look good together. My bf just doesn't seem to like me that way anymore,he loves me but doesn't like me,or maybe he just loves the idea of being loved so much as I've done for the past four yrs. Any of you been in this kind of situation? How did it turn out? Any advice?
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 6:37pm
Never leave one man for another leave because you need to do it for health and happiness

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 10:12pm
Yup, mefree.. the advise is right on! Belle -- you need to seperate the two issues. If you leave BF, do it because you're not happy. Italian Stallion sounds like he's already making the rules -- okay if he's the main man and you have that agreement, not so good if he's just trying to be the OM. Honey -- I don't know your age or circumstance, but as an older woman let me just tell you -- you need to make the rules, then find a man who loves you in spite of (or because of) them.