Husband OR Soulmate?

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Husband OR Soulmate?
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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 2:05pm

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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 2:24pm

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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 4:12pm

I don't know what you should do. I only know what I would do, and that's after having been through this whole affair business. But what I will tell you is this...it seems to me that if someone were actually a "soulmate" (I'm sorry, but I get so sick of seeing that word on the affair boards.), it wouldn't be this hard. He wouldn't be going back to his wife all the time. You wouldn't still harbor the love you do for your spouse. Seems to me it would be so overpowering that nothing and no one would stop it. Sounds to me like you've got a pretty comfortable life with your husband. Maybe it's not perfect. Maybe he doesn't dance or make you laugh. But you still love him. Let me tell you something, that's real life. Don't look at the surface things when evaluating your marriage. Look at the whole picture. And for heaven's sakes, don't look at the tattoo. You may see it as romantic, but having some other woman's name and lip print tattooed on your body when you are still married to someone else, still going back to someone else is pretty insensitive and tacky in my book. He sounds immature. Also, how does someone get a restraining order filed against them (and violate it) for simply leaving them for another woman? It's not THAT easy. There has to be evidence of something else.

I say really evaluate everything before you make a decision. Honestly? He sounds like a long shot at Churchill Downs.

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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 4:23pm
Wait a minute....you were just speaking to Tony the day before and you're miffed about your husband being on the phone with another woman, stripper or not? I hate to say it, but isn't it possible that you don't satisfy him? In the meantime, you've got some other guy that wants to marry you? Really? If I were you, I'd step back from ALL men and try to find out who you really are. I'd focus on the things that really count, too, not the material realm of this world. You sound like you're grasping at something that eludes you, and that something just may be you and not some clown of the day you're entertaining the thought of.

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