I am an evil psycho apparently

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Registered: 10-27-2009
I am an evil psycho apparently
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Tue, 10-27-2009 - 12:07pm

I am on year four of my affair.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 1:20pm
Are you serious?? is this for real??
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2009
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 3:07pm
That *IS* evil. Why would you do that?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2009
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 6:26pm
I have no idea what drove that behavior.
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 6:48pm

Hi spankydoll,

All I can say is, let it go. There is not one person here that hasn't snapped, in one way or another. No, we probably didn't send an email to the W but honestly, four years? And this is this first time you've lost it?

IMO, your AP has been one lucky devil to have skated for so long without any emotional backlash! If it were me (and believe me, I've had my fair share of "freak outs") I would give him space. I would think at least a week, if not two (that is, if you can hold out that long). After that amount of time, perhaps send another concilliatory text, and then leave the ball in his court.

Honestly, if one instance...after four years, is enough for him to decamp...then LET HIM. He's a waste of skin and space.

benska

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Registered: 10-27-2009
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 6:58pm

I am actually in more of a head space that this may finally end things.

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Registered: 10-27-2009
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 7:53pm

I was posting because I am in shock that I even went there.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2003
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 8:11pm

Hi spankydoll,

Now that you've provided a bit more information, I can tell you...even more certainly, that I know exactly how you feel.

Yeah, my relationship with AP/BF has always been an up and down thing (I think I'm finally realizing that it's "possibly" just part of our dance) but something very similar just happened to me recently.

I'd gone on an impromptu road trip with him, we stopped along the way and he introduced me to two of his brothers. We had a pretty wonderful time although we did have one bad moment, but otherwise it was great. Felt like we were a real, out in the open, dating couple. I was really very happy. Once I was home however (I do drink too by the way, lol) I started to dwell on things, and in my alcohol filled state, wondered why I couldn't BE that IRL anyway?...so I picked a fight.

Not an ideal reaction, but sometimes enough is enough. One thing I can say, when I finally blow...AP usually listens and tends to try and be there for me more.

It's okay.

benska

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Registered: 05-18-2007
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 8:19pm

I might be in the minority here, but Spanky, I don't think that you are evil for doing so.


First, he has an "open relationship"... and that makes this a bit of a different situation than a normal A.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-09-2008
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 8:32pm
Sorry Spanyky, I wasn't using your post as an example.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2009
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 11:53pm
What in the Sam Hill is a BB?

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