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| Thu, 05-06-2004 - 11:13pm |
I have a question? What constitutes an affair? I met this man online a couple of years ago. He is married, as am I. We finally made love, and it was over very quickly for him and he was really embarrassed for himself. So he ended it. So to make a long story short, We have since gotten back in touch and have met at the same motel about 4 times in the past 9 months. We make small talk, about how we are and afterwards he talks about work, his dog and light coversations. It is just sex for the most part. I know his last name, as he does mine. But for the most part we aren't that involved. So to sum up my question, I guess I have always had the idea an affair was an emotional connection as well as a physical one. Something of which I don't have with him.
Any thoughts on this?
Heather

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Well over on the UK board they had a link to something that outlined the different types of affairs. If I remember them all they were The emotional affair, the sensual affair, the bridge affair, the sexual affair... not sure if that is all of them. Either way if you are involved with someone (married or not) you are in an affair. Haven't you heard of the term "great love affairt"? Its all the same.
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Interesting thread.
GB2
An affair to me, is definitely something you can not talk to your married partner (or anyone that would pass judgement for it being wrong), or rather to the depth it goes, or rather the soaring feeling it gives.
Some mentioned when it becomes sexual, that I disagree with, simply because you can sleep with anyone, and not have an affair, sex being the primary drive (ex. sleeping with a prostitute).
WE have decided that OUR affair will last, even past this time, because he makes me feel that love is not a good enough word to describe what is being felt. I love my DH, but I have more than that for my MM. Just that simple.
His Mitzy!
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