i am having an affair

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Registered: 08-29-2003
i am having an affair
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Fri, 08-29-2003 - 2:08am
i have been having an affair for 8 months with a guy i met at work, we are both married and we are also 24. we also have children. i dont work with him anymore and we are still keeping in touch and see each other once a week. i need help with my situation from those who are in my shoes right now. Please Help!!!!!!!!!!
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 2:15am
Hi georgia and welcome to the board,

There are quite a few of us on the board who are in a similar situation to yours. I myself am married with two small children as is my MM.

I met MM online and we are in touch almost every day... but only actually see each other once or twice a month.

Feel free to post and ask for advice for anything and I'm sure someone will be able to help out at least in some small way.

luv and hugs

Sweet

Sweet
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Registered: 08-29-2003
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 3:04am
sweet thanks for listening to me, it's just so hard when at first it was just a fling but now it has turned into more than that. We both talk about unhappy we are in our marriages and how we want out but like i said i have a 3 1/2 year old and he has a 2 1/2 year old and their both boys. He tells me that she bitches at him all the time and the only reason he wont leave is b/c of his son which i do believe him b/c im in the same situation. well i one day finally got the courage to try to break it off with him and wrote him a letter well my h found the letter and knew i was having an affair but he still wants us to work our marriage out but i dont feel we can b/c im in love with the mm and i have told him that thinking my mm would want to break it off b/c it's risky but he didnt. we dont get to talk much except on wed when it's his day off but when we do talk it's great we sit and talk for hours on the phone even though we are trying to take care of our children at the same time. i have actually had a conversation with his son and that meant alot to me, it's just i dont know where i stand with him and the question that keeps going through my mind is if things are really bad at home for my mm or am i just the gullible one to believe what he saids. I finally got the nerve to tell him i love him and was in love with him and he said right now he doesnt feel he loves me but honestly i think he does but b/c of the crap he has dealt with when it comes to his marriage, he's scared to say those words to me right now and it's ok i guess i mean he doesnt wont to rush things but we go out in public and he has even asked me to come to his house and im kinda scared about going b/c we might get caught by his wife and hell would break lose. i feel my mm is the one but i dont know for sure just based on how we met at my recent job and the way we still contact each other even though i live 40 miles away from him, i just really need advice from someone who is going through this situation.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 3:16am
Hi georgia,

I just wanted to pop a quick reply on before I finish up the day... I'm a little out of time at present... but did not want you to think I just disappeared.

I can relate to a lot of what you said... as you seem to appear to be in a similar situation as me... although different too.

I will get back to you with a few more thoughts... but I'm sure in the meantime there will be some else on board who might have a little further perspective for you.

luv and hugs

Sweet

Sweet
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