I am new at this...need advice

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Registered: 12-11-2008
I am new at this...need advice
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Thu, 12-11-2008 - 2:11am
Ok, so I am new at this.
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Registered: 08-19-2008
Thu, 12-11-2008 - 2:49pm

>>>"I just cant keep living a sexless life with an a$shole husband. We have 2 kids...it hasn't always been this way, what do I do?"<<<

Marriage counseling. If that doesn't work, and you're still sexless and H is still an a'hole then why would you want to stay? Don't use financial and kids as excuse. Money is only money and kids would rather have a happy "non-cheating" Mom.

>>>"Should I just go for it or what? If I could get a secret friends with benefits package that would be wonderful."<<<

You mean make the first move? Your post doesn't sound like he's gonna go for it first. Be careful in this line of thinking. You could lose his respect and friendship. You could just be giving meaning to how he is with you because of your lust for him. It would be degrading if he rejects your advances. I would wait for him to make the first move.



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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 7:54am
I think you need to figure out your marriage first. If its not working, deal with that and then find someone else. Scouting out some exciting on the side will do nothing but complicate your life. What is the point in seeking someone else and keeping your husband around that you don't even like?
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Fri, 12-12-2008 - 2:31pm

Hi there, I too just usually read these boards.

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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 4:23pm

We all have thoughts and opinions which are generally formed from our lives and experiences. What you may find judgemental another person may find helpful.

I think you misunderstood the posts. Our posts were for the most part trying to be supportive in her seeking happiness and sanity. I am sorry you feel that to be judgemental.

That said, we all come to the board seeking advice or support or to vent. As you said, 'judging of others is not anyones place'. One of the reasons I come to this board to offer advice for people I feel need some support. You do not know my background so please, when you say don't judge, keep that in mind too. Take Care.




Edited 12/12/2008 4:27 pm ET by lovemykidlets
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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 5:52pm

It's not about judging, it's about trying to help someone avoid needless heartache.
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Registered: 12-15-2003
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 11:33am

everyone has As for different reasons....

~k
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Sat, 12-13-2008 - 1:45pm
I'm just curious. Do these AP#1,2,3,4,5??? Know that you're doing all of them? Also, do you know how many other AP's these people are doing besides you? Otherwise, it could be very dangerous........


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Sat, 12-13-2008 - 2:54pm

well you never know, thats for sure, what anyone is doing...

~k