I am so ashamed...

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2007
I am so ashamed...
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Thu, 12-04-2008 - 9:26am

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2008
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 10:06am

Hi Chatfish,


I guess you are in a position where you need to decide what you want.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 10:42am

Did you tell his GF just that you love him, or, that he has been cheating on her with you?


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2007
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 11:38am

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2007
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 12:06pm

I guess you are in a position where you need to decide what you want.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 12:15pm

Seems odd to me that he would not be upset and even go as far as stating that it is not your fault *scratching head*.


Anyway, if it were me, and


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2007
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 12:32pm

I believe that he sees this A as being in it too and having carried on as long as we did it is not "all my fault" as to the A.....not my email.


He is taking responsibility for his part in this, I am thinking, yes upset that I emailed, more upset that he could have told her himself and never did. He wanted to end things by moving out...not by my act of stupidity.


Yes, alcohol

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2008
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 2:01am

Chatfish,

Carrrrrried...away2
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Fri, 12-05-2008 - 10:48am

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Fri, 12-05-2008 - 12:12pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2008
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 1:04pm

things go up and down for me and XAP/AP/XAP/BF/XBF or whatever we are now...i wanted to thank you for posting what you did, the thought ran across my mind to send a letter to his W with pictures call logs from the cell phone etc..., just recently...it was just a fleeting thought though...i never mentioned it to him, not even out of anger, that the thought recently crossed my mind...i just digressed with it...yes, i do see your aftermath in it...and that it would be my own selfish thoughts and feelings and that a lot of people would be hurt....it's good to see that you do accept responsibility for everything and that no matter how much it hurts you will back up some from your AP in that he can make his own decision....that is often very hard to do...take a stance with these guys because they know how to tug and pull at your heartstrings....i had to take a stance with my AP..but he is still tugging at my heart strings with my son, called him asked him what he wanted for xmas and what he wanted to get me.....everything that happened this time

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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