I am so excited!

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Registered: 11-17-2007
I am so excited!
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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 6:44pm
I am counting the hours til this weekend when i see him. I'll see him fri nite with all our friends, and sat he is coming out to my campsite for the day. No, we won't be alone there, as i am having a party and a lot of our friends will be there again. He is also bringing his son too(our sons play together)... But i just can't wait!! I haven't seen him for over a month. I tried to start the beginning of the end of the A last month, but it just didn't happen. If anything, i think it fueled his fire to see me more. And it certainly got him talking to me more too, online and in person exclusively, in front of our circle of friends. Generally he doesn't follow me around like a puppy dog, but he did last month when i was showing indifference to him. Did i light a fire under his butt or something? BTW, those that know us best in our circle of friends know of the marital woes him and i have...they all think me and AP should be together. People are constantly making innocent remarks about it. We'll see how the weekend pans out.
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Thu, 07-30-2009 - 2:01am
I'm excited for you. Have you guys talked about a future together? Let us know how it goes!


Edited 7/30/2009 2:04 am ET by caribu79
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Registered: 12-25-2008
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 6:17am
I hope you get a little time alone - maybe a hike that the SO's don't want to go on or a run to the store. It must feel like Christmas for you - soak it up!
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Registered: 11-17-2007
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 6:45am

Yeah, actually we did talk about the future, last fall. We saw us with each other in five years. I told him that will about how long it will take for me to get divorced, have the kids grow up a little more, (and his too)to where they are closer to adults. We each have a 13yrold boy. Also the time span will give us a better clue as whether we are serious about each other. I do know, i would NOT drop everything to be with him. He is an accompaniment to my life, not a necessity at this point, and i am not going to depend on him for my happiness. Yes, it makes my heart sing to see him, but i also realize it could all be taken away tomorow, too.
And our SO's are not coming to the campsite either, so maybe getting away alone for a little while will not be a problem. I know fri nite it won't be a problem at all.

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 1:08pm
How do you guys handle other people knowing about your A?Just curious.isnt an A to be kept between you and your guy?I understand that they are friends but you never know who will tell whom?Are you all lovey -dovey in front of friends?How do you do that?Well,i guess,even if you are not,people can pick up easily without you even realizing it.
Sorry for being so nosy.I really hope you get to steal some private moments !
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Registered: 11-17-2007
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 2:50pm
Our friends dont know that we are as attached as we are to each other..they have no idea of the emails, and moments alone we have, and its really none of their business anyway. ... they know me and him are good freinds, but thats it..and no one is going to say anything to anyone cuz they know its not their place, and they know how hard him and i have it at home. They are glad we have each other as friends. All of us work together on environmental energy ideas, and issues and ways to bring about awareness of the way to live more green. When a project comes up, and we need a partner for something, people are quick to suggest the two of us.
As far as being lovey dovey, the only thing we do is hug each other goodby in front of people. Most of our freinds have known us for 10yrs. And neither me nor him have it in us to cheat with each other in front of our friends.
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Registered: 11-12-2008
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 3:46pm
You seem in love with your AP and do sound at peace with it.Good for you if you both are at same page.Being unhappy at home brought you guys closer,watch out dolly! Its an attachment you wont be able to live without after a while!!!but if you guys are taking it well ,then its the best thing ever happened to you.
You are lucky to be content in your A and have supportive friends !
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Sat, 08-01-2009 - 8:15am
Wow! how did it go? A meeting after being in no contact for a month and that too trying to break it up,mmm,it does fuel up things;)