Oh, vivacious, I knew he'd come crawling back to you! I can't believe he showed up with a bag and everything, saying he would spend the night. He probably does love you, you are a beautiful, spirited woman! Make him grovel. *evil grin*
"That he was going to stay a night and was about to get his things from the trunk (haha), when I exploded and said he is not welcomed in my house anymore."
Whaat?
He's talking about the night that he got up, got dressed and said he had to go to a meeting the next morning, right? So what he really meant to say was "I have to get my stuff from the trunk"?
Don't you just love it when they try to rewrite history?
Surely if he loved you, he wouldn't do that - he'd be coming back saying he was really sorry that he wasn't honest about staying, or that his plans changed and he didn't want to tell you earlier and spoil the evening. At least something believeable!
I hope you think really hard about letting this guy back in - if you do, then make sure you draw up the conditions!
If you decide not, then you are ending on a perfect note really
i'm going to post this, and i now you are not going to like what i have to say at all. you know he's married, and it's almost impossible for some one who's married to spend the night. he probably left the way he did so as not cause a fight, understandable to be angry. now your playing with his head, playing games. that's wrong. i would never in a million years treat my AP like that. just mho.
But, tori, he led her to believe he would be spending the night, and it sounds like he did it deliberately. She would have been fine if he had announced from the beginning that he wouldn't be able to stay. But he didn't, and she put her heart and soul into creating the perfect overnight with him. At this point, I think vivacious is doing the best thing she can do, which is to protect herself from getting hurt again.
if you read my post i said i would be angry for him leaving. believe me i would. now he's trying to make amends, and it seems like mind games now. i would just sit and talk with him and see where he's at. on the other hand, i am a weak minded soul. dk. the tangled web we weave.
what i meant by mind games is ignoring his calls or texts. talk to him , and see where he's at. then if it's not what you want, then tell him so. i really am sorry about the whole thing. i can amagine how it hurt. i hope it works out some how.
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Edited 7/5/2009 10:54 pm ET by vivaciousgirl
He for sure loves you vivacious - no doubt about that to me, and he wants you so bad he can't stand it.
BUT- I hope this doesn't change anything for you, other than makes you feel REALLY good (I know what a relief and ego boost
"That he was going to stay a night and was about to get his things from the trunk (haha), when I exploded and said he is not welcomed in my house anymore."
Whaat?
He's talking about the night that he got up, got dressed and said he had to go to a meeting the next morning, right? So what he really meant to say was "I have to get my stuff from the trunk"?
Don't you just love it when they try to rewrite history?
Surely if he loved you, he wouldn't do that - he'd be coming back saying he was really sorry that he wasn't honest about staying, or that his plans changed and he didn't want to tell you earlier and spoil the evening. At least something believeable!
I hope you think really hard about letting this guy back in - if you do, then make sure you draw up the conditions!
If you decide not, then you are ending on a perfect note really
D x
But, tori, he led her to believe he would be spending the night, and it sounds like he did it deliberately. She would have been fine if he had announced from the beginning that he wouldn't be able to stay. But he didn't, and she put her heart and soul into creating the perfect overnight with him. At this point, I think vivacious is doing the best thing she can do, which is to protect herself from getting hurt again.
Just my 2 cents. :)
Edited 7/5/2009 10:57 pm ET by vivaciousgirl
Edited 7/5/2009 10:58 pm ET by vivaciousgirl
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