I am so ready to stop this

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Registered: 07-28-2008
I am so ready to stop this
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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 4:55pm

OK..so I guess I'm having a bad day today..which is the culmination of several bad days. I am just so sick of who I have become.

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 5:26pm
As they say, "If the pain outweighs the pleasure, it's time to end it". He should be just a supplement to an already happy you. So, maybe a good time to work on yourself? Our happiness should NOT be placed on somebody else's shoulders....
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Registered: 07-18-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 6:35am
I'm feeling like that myself today. Don't want to write a lot because of the attacks on MAS today, just want to tell you your not alone. You can e-mail me if you need to vent or something.
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Registered: 11-27-2007
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:47am

Goddess G said it. If it is not bringing you pleasure, then what is the point? You said you won't leave your M, so there's nothing that you are working towards. As difficult as it will be, yes, it sounds like you need to end the A. But please don't accept that an unhappy M is your "lot in life". There's always a way to make things better. Whether that it to get counseling and fix your M, or figure out a way for you to leave it.


I hope you find the strength to do what you know is best for you. We are all here for you as you begin that journey.

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Registered: 09-15-2007
Sat, 08-23-2008 - 12:51pm
I was going thru the boards and stumble across your post, It sounds exactly like my situation but get this ..mine has been going on for almost 20 years and it still is exactly
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Registered: 08-16-2008
Sat, 08-23-2008 - 6:41pm

I have an alternative point of view.

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Sun, 08-24-2008 - 12:25pm

Thanks everyone for your responses! I saw AP on Friday and we had 2 glorious hours together. As always when we see

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Registered: 09-15-2007
Sun, 08-24-2008 - 5:07pm
It is not always easy after all these years, I am still not real secure inthings as you can tell if you read my post in wife interception, I just can't be without him the physical part of the A is awesome. I do wish I could let it go but it sucks being without him or knowing that we wont ever be together again so I guess it is worth it to me in some strange way he fills a void and
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 8:21am
how do you last for 20 years. marriages don't even last that long.
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Registered: 11-28-2007
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 11:23am

Hmm - well Tori - I'm not sure about that.

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