I AM IN TROUBLE

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-05-2004
I AM IN TROUBLE
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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 7:50pm
I CAN'T KEEP GOING ON LIKE THIS! HE HAS TAKEN MY HEART AND CRUSHED IT! HE TOOK OVER 3,000 BUCKS FROM ME AND NOW HE THINKS HE IS GOING TO WALK OFF SCOTT FREE AND BE WITH HIS WIFE OR WHATEVER HE IS DOING.I DESERVE NO CONTACT? I DON'T THINK SO! AND BESIDES THAT THE WHOLE THING AT WHERE WE WORKED TOGETHER COMING DOWN ON ME? HIS FRIEND IS TELLING PEOPLE I AM SOME KIND OF NUTTY B AFTER HIS BUTT. I DON'T THINK SO! WHAT CAN I DO TO STRAIGHTEN THIS OUT? I AM LOST AND KNOW IT! HELP!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-07-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 9:02pm
Why did he take over 3,000 from you? Sweetie, you need to make HIM PAY YOU BACK! All of it!!Take his lousy butt to court! Expose him!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-13-2003
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 9:15pm

Did he take the $3000 or did you give it to him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-17-2004
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 5:09am
xxx. I am sorry about your MM. I hope he calls you soon. Take heart honey. We are there for you if you need to vent. ((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
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Registered: 11-19-2003
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 8:24am
ME TOO GIRL> I AM IN TROUBLE TOO. NO CONTACT WITH MM FOR TWO WEEKS. HE SUDDENLY DISSAPPEARED FROM THE FACE OF THE EARTH FOR ME. HE WOULD CALL IF HE CARED RIGHT? DAMN MEN, ONLY THINKING ABOUT THEMSELVES ALL THE TIME. :((((
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 10:23am
(((((trouble)))))

Try to stay calm. Post whenever you need to.

As for the money - how did he take it from you. Was it a loan?

If it was, and you had an agreement on it being paid back, then you should do whatever it takes to get it back.

Don't let him get the best of you. Stay strong - you can do it.

Friggin' prick doesn't deserve you anyway!!!!


More hugs (((((trouble)))))

Red

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Registered: 01-09-2004
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 1:28pm
Unless he wrote a promissory note for the money, the money is gone. Did you really think that you could bribe him into staying with you? Did you really think that if you gave him enough money, showered him with enough gifts, that you would indeed have him? Did you think about maybe giving him the money after he left his wife?

I hate to say it, but your money is gone, and your lesson learned, the hard way. And just an FYI, keep up trying to go after it, and you may find yourself on the receiving end of a restraining order.

Unless you have proof you gave him the money, or unless it was a loan in which you have documentation, it is gone.

Life

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Sat, 04-17-2004 - 5:22pm
Sorry you are wrong about the money. MM was having money problems. He owns his own small business and his soon to be EX was over spending and getting him in the whole. I gave him a business loan and it was stated on the check as that. He was trying to pay me. He paid me back half and then everything started snowballing on him . Besides dealing with his family falling apart and knowing that his kids are going to be leaving with his wife, there is bad credit, and everything that goes with it. He is getting ate up about the money he owes me. He always brings it up to me when we are together. Telling me it is his top priority to pay me back. Says he hates having it between us! I have never asked for it back. I know the stress is to much for him right now. I never linked the loan and my love for him together. That is not what kind of person I am. You either love me for who I am or forget about me! I take offense to the thought of me trying to buy love. I am just freaking out because this is the longest span of time that he has ever went without talking to me. I get so frustrated and have to think of every possible reason for the limbo. Venting here helps. I really know he feels worthless right now. He told me , What good am I to you if I come to you with nothing. I can't contribute anything and that isn't fair to you. So here I sit! waiting! I tried to tell him that money doesn't matter that much. And that everything will fall together if we were together. He is so stubborn though. Very hard working and determined when he has something he is going after. I am just hoping he is putting all his time into getting his ending all together like he said. If he has deserted me, which no one that knows him thinks so, than I will deal with the issues . I get weak, I am after all only human!