I asked him...am I pathetic?

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Registered: 03-30-2003
I asked him...am I pathetic?
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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 4:34pm
So I came right and told MM I want a date that we are getting together. We haven't seen each other in months mainly due to life changes. Over the last month we have made 2 plans to get together and both fell through due to his work schedule. I REALLY want to see him so I told him that I wanted a date we could get together by the end of May. Besides his work schedeule I have to coordinate with my H being away and getting a babysitter. We will probably just meet and talk (well and kiss) but I am really need to see him. SO am I pathetic for asking? Should I have continued to wait for him? I outright said I want to see you and I want a date? He was very agreeable and said he will call me later with his calendar so he knows when he is town. Hmmm..how desperate do I sound?
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Registered: 04-01-2004
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 6:38pm
I don't think you sound desperate-

I think if you are straight forward with what you want and try to get it and MM tries his hardest as well it can lead to very postive things -

The one thing I love about being in an EMA is the spontaniety of it -

My schedule is unpredictable --- I sometimes don't even know if I am coming or going

and I hear it from MM all the time --- when can I get some time ---

It's adorable how he asks and I think if you word it positively and happily and have

great idea's for how you want to spend time together

(cold dark room always works for me...)

(jacuzzi tub for 2 you bring the bubbles works too LOL)

but anyway I am getting side tracked but It is understandable how you can become cranky from the not spending time with him - but remember it is an EMA - and with EMA's you need

to have the free time or accountable time to spend I have gone months waiting for a "date" and same thing with MM - it sometimes just isn't in the aligning of the stars and planets and moon etc -

But when it is !!!! Nothing can keep us apart

Kikki

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Registered: 04-15-2004
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 8:38pm
I totally agree with Kikki. That is what an EMA is all about: not having the time, but finding the time (without getting caught, of course). My favorite line with MM is that: "Well, this shouldn't be easy. We shouldn't have the time to meet. That's what got us in trouble in the first place!"

Even though it is SO, SO TOUGH to not see each other when you want to - try to remember that is why this relationship is so special. Sometimes MM and I wonder if it's the excitement/thrill/scariness (of getting caught) of this whole relationship that makes it so special. What do you guys think?

I don't think you are being forward by trying to schedule some time. I am a total control freak, I need to know my schedule, so an EMA is really hard for me to take, because we have to steal moments here and there, and sometimes it is very last minute kind of stuff. But do try to remember that is why this relationship IS special . . . because of the very nature of it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 8:50pm
Hi Briatan,

It doesn't sound like you've been clingy, needy or whiney, lol, how could MM take it as pathetic - his ego probably got a boost! I hope all goes to plan!

(It's been ages - good to see a familiar name!)

Meow

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 9:23pm
HI Briatan

I don't think you sound desparate at all. It is perfectly normal to ask for something that you want from him, within reason, and a date to see him is very reasonable.

JMHO

Later

SB

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 10:59pm
Thanks everyone! MM has actually been great. he has told me many times not to feel stupid when I am the one asking or being more forward. Hopefully this time we will be able to get together! I appreciate all the advice of late. I have been in a funk these last few weeks..letting this EMA get a little too much of me! Oh well ..i know that happens.

Meow--great to see you!! Hope all is well!