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| Thu, 10-30-2008 - 12:18pm |
Well, I have been on this board on and off over the last two years. I have totally become consumed by my A and AP! I have texted him way too much - he has texted me bck saying no more texting. I talked with him about this and he said it's b/c his wife was with him. Then we met on Tuesday for our meeting. During our activities his cell phone received two text messages. While he was cleaning up in the other room, I checked his texts and some woman had sent him a text saying ur mean, but adorable. It was 8 pm! I asked him if he was seeing someone else and he said no. Well, since then I have apologized to him for being nosey. He did not seem mad, a little surprised - he said he would have never looked at my phone.
Well since then I have called him a bunch. He suggested that maybe I need to take a break. I then told him I did not want to take a break. I suggested we see each other tonight but he declined b/c he has to teach class. I called him once more and left a MSG thanking him for listening to me and that I had no right to control his life. He then texted me saying "Oookay!! How many times have u called today? I am with my daughter at lunch and could not answer my phone. Now, why were u calling?". I texted him back three hours later and said that I left him a MSG thanking him for listening to me. I also said that I was obviously calling him too much and that in the future I would only call to arrange for appts - and that there was no reason to talk on the phone so much. I apologized and told him to take care.
I have not and will not call him today. My goal is not to call him until Nov 10th. I have relized I am emotionally
involved with him and he can keep it separate better than I can. I hate this but the meetings are incredible. I have
a good marriage, just little sex. It was so much easier before. I don't want him to think I am attached or crazy. I
have always had a good excuse as to why I am calling. I think I am hoping he will show signs of caring and
emotion each time I call. Instead I am pissing him off and looking desperate. I wish I could just end it. I hate this, but love it too! Hopefully he willsee me in November. I am going to be strong - if thy means I have to mean on u guys for support. Please post ur thoughts. Thanks. :)

IMO, you are bordering on 'fatal attraction' and you have scared him away.
Have some respect for yourself. No man is worth chasing after unless he is Rufus Sewell. Other than that you need to get control of yourself and leave this man alone before you mess up having restraining orders on you.
Love yourself.
I agree w/ clarity. I know how addictive it can be to talk to your AP, and to see them, but you're out of control. I think that it might be to late myself.
Men have A's because they need a break from reality. They want to go somewhere they are made to feel desired, and effective. If they want needy clingy women then they would just stay home. The way that you were acting, you made yourself just one more female in his life making demands, and that's the last thing that he needs/wants.
Another problem w/ what happen is he may feel like you are way too attached, and he may view your behavior as a threat to his marriage. He may perceive you as unstable, and fear that if he makes you angry you might tell his wife. I would back way off, and see if he contacts you. Good luck.