I can't think!

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Registered: 05-17-2003
I can't think!
Sat, 05-03-2014 - 10:31pm

Hi everyone,

So, my AP of the last seven years has been (way) out of town working. He has been going back and forth, with the average length of time away being between 4-6 weeks. It's been tough, but it has been brilliant at keeping things "fresh" Smile

Anyway, as he was surfing the web one day he came across a piece of property that caught his eye. Well, didn't he call me up and tell me that he thought it could be a very good investment...basically coming out and telling me (I think) that one day soon, we would live there together. Said that it wasn't inconceivable that he wouldn't leave our home town, and that he quite enjoys the winters where he is working.

I am BEYOND gobsmacked. So gobsmacked in fact, that once he said that we would live there together one day....my brain shut down and I didn't hear another word he said! I do remember him saying that he thought about going on title with me, but that would NOT work at all if he wasn't divorced first. Which means that I would be the sole person on the hook for it.

He called up a realtor that he knows, and actually went on a couple of viewings...I am to go out there in a few weeks to go on some viewings with him, and then we would return home together.

This is something I have been dreaming about for years..and now that it could possibly be happening, I am SO confused. I never dreamed that he might leave his wife, and that we would be together. As a matter of fact, I always thought that once this relationship ended (which I assumed would eventually happen) I would end up going back to my home province and living with family.

I am happy, don't get me wrong. But I feel that I need to be cautious as well. If I were to do this, it would take a (I think) a large bite out of my available funds. What if I couldn't get a job? What if he doesn't really end up there with me?

So yes...very, very, confused..and also extremely happy Smile

I would appreciate any words of wisdom...

P.S. Sunny! So happy to see you back here..I hope that you're doing well