I could use one of those hugs too...

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-13-2003
I could use one of those hugs too...
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 4:55pm

Tonight was supposed to be wonderful.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-17-2004
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 5:24pm
Here is a big HUG from me FLirty....

I don't like getting my hopes up and then BOOM!! I have been there before.. I am sorry your night was ruined..

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 10:07pm

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} to you Flirty.... I can understand what you mean hon... been there, done that! you want them to have there own life... but at the same time... you just want them to be with you.

Sweet
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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 12:22am
Hey flirty,

I really know exactly how you feel. I have heard the same from my MM. The relationship was going great for several months, then suddenly he feels guilt. He feels guilty when we plan those weekend trips out of town together. It is planned cheating. But, when it is spontaneous, he is happy and the sex is great.

He just needs some space and he will come back to you. Give him the space then give him the opportunity for spontaneity.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2004
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 8:06am
Flirty ~~

I hope you're feeling better today. Like someone else said at least he is being honest with you. In my experience, it can be very hard for men to express their feelings especially when they know it might upset us. So that fact that he was so open is a good sign.

It's good that you don't push him if he's not feeling comfortable. MM & I had our 1st planned meeting this week and it didn't go well. It was just too much guilt and fear for MM which he's never had a problem with when things happened spontaneously. I think I pushed him too much after and now we are on NC.

Your MM will come around when he is ready and I'm sure it will be worth the wait.

((HUGS))

luv

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 8:59am
huggie hugs to you too....
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-14-2004
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 9:32am
I'm sorry flrty, that must be very difficult. To have a chance to be with one another without all the hassles seems like a perfect opportunity. Then he tells you that what you view as ideal, he sees as a problem. I personally think he is kidding himself a bit. For him to think that he isn't really cheating if it is spontaneous is silly. Hopefully he'll come to his senses. From my perspective, there is nothing I wouldn't drop in a second to see my OW. But that's me.

I hope today is a better day.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-13-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 11:08am

Thanks all.