I deserve this

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2009
I deserve this
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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 2:38pm

Everybody warned me about this Om.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:55am

Flying,

The fact that you call it a "friendship" with the quotes seems to point to it is not really a friendship. I friendly disagree with the fact that it will be "easy" if she does not have feelings. I think that she has some attraction to this man even if she does not have "feelings". She will always be vulnerable to him so I don't think it will ever be truly easy if this man keeps up the attempts. I would encourage her to protect herself so she does not have to find out if it is easy or difficult.

I don't have feelings for the beautiful woman that I might meet today at Starbucks. But, if I allow that beautiful woman to continuously attempt to fulfill a need such as admiration(This fantasy woman is going to tell me how handsome I am and lucky my wife is on a regular basis) resisting her advances will not be easy. Attraction followed by the choice to allow the person to meet some type of need usually ends in some type of affair whether emotional or physical along with some "feeling" of love unless some hard boundary is established such as NC.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 12:27pm

I do understand what you are saying...and I hear ya...I always make sure I have at


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2006
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 12:48pm

Hopeful,


Hi.


I respect your point of view, but there are people in our lives who we simply outgrow.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2009
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:12pm

Hi Flying again and to everyone,


Thanks for taking the time to try to help me.


I am sorry to say that my feelings have not yet disappeared. I have loved him for a while now but only now just told him after a heavy dose of pursuit.


I am not the type of person to say things like that lightly, so I really felt there was a connection.


At this moment, I do believe I was a conquest for him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:41pm

lol JAM!


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:52pm

TC,


It is good that you see that this EA was similiar to a drug addiction.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2006
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:56pm

Control,


It sounds to me that you have learned not only about men, but about yourself.

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