i did it.........................
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i did it.........................
| Sat, 06-13-2009 - 12:19pm |
Well folks i did it, ive told my H im no longer in love with him. ive told him i want out. It has been one of the most difficult things ive had to do, it hurts that after nearly 18 years with someone the dream you once started out having together no longer exsists. It hurts to see that ive hurt him, to see the pain im putting him through. But you know i need to do this, its not a

Hi there SS -
So proud of you for taking control of your life and moving forward - I remember doing that same thing a few years ago - and as terrifying as it is on one hand - it is so liberating to finally know that YOU are worth more than you have been settling for all this time.
You are right - whether you and AP end up together in the future remains to be seen - but for now - allow him to be a support to you - while you start this new journey to a whole new you!!
You know we are here for you anytime you need to vent or need a shoulder to lean on.
Hi SS !
You are one strong woman. Your words "but im not making it so that i need a man to bring me happiness, im aiming for my happiness to come from within", is almost identical to my new year resolution and a very important statement. I had this on my mind when I broke off with XAP and later closed the door to him completely.
I know you will get throught this even stronger !
I wish you all the best !
((((hugs))))
I am proud of you SS--I know how much concern you have with your Son's needs and that you have given this much much thought. I wish you peace and happiness within yourself.
I did it too--after 25 years married I am in mediation for my Divorce. I know it is time. I have NO regrets, and long to be on my own, for me.
WOW! thats great.getting out of a bad M and finally have a chance with AP !!
I wish you luck in this journey of love.
Thankyou everyone for your replies and support. Ive spent last 12 months in turmoil with myself about what to do for the best. Ive always put others before myself and my own happiness but at the end of the day how can those around you be happy including kids if your aura weeps unhappiness.
Its going to be tough im under no illusion. But life is short and at the end of the day i know if i was to carry on in my marriage it would be through living a lie, not fair on myself, my kids, or my H.
Im in a A, its not right and not something im proud of. So i ask myself if i truly truly loved my H why would i hurt him this way, my answer is i know i dont love him and he deserves his freedom as much as I to go forth and find someone that suits his needs better. Just because he is the man he is with me doesnt mean their isnt someone out their that he can make happy and vice versa. I dont have the right no longer to keep him from that by lying and deceiving him and hanging on to a M i know is dead.
"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"