ok since you are already in an affair & not in love with your H anymore , the best thing you can do is be honest & end your marriage . If you really want to be fair , you H should know the truths about you affair .
i agree with the other posters.. counseling/therapy just for you or for both you and H is valuable.. you don't have to reveal the A but do tell him that you are seeking counseling to solve the problems you mentioned.. at least, see what his reaction is..
as for your future, if you are to end your M, it would need to be on your own terms, after ending your A for good.
ok since you are already in an affair & not in love with your H anymore , the best thing you can do is be honest & end your marriage . If you really want to be fair , you H should know the truths about you affair .
Best of luck
I can only tell you my own (abbreviated) story: H and I have been together for over 15 years, and have a young child together.
anotherseyes
I agree with AE.
i agree with the other posters.. counseling/therapy just for you or for both you and H is valuable.. you don't have to reveal the A but do tell him that you are seeking counseling to solve the problems you mentioned.. at least, see what his reaction is..
as for your future, if you are to end your M, it would need to be on your own terms, after ending your A for good.