I dont believe i did that

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Registered: 12-08-2008
I dont believe i did that
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Mon, 12-08-2008 - 11:37am

Ok, here goes.

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Registered: 11-18-2008
Mon, 12-08-2008 - 11:04pm
Well...
Carrrrrried...away2
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Registered: 08-02-2000
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 5:13pm

Sounds like you got carried away. Most likely by the alcohol. Only you can say if there were any hidden desires you had, but chances are pretty good that you would not have acted upon them, if there were, if not for the booze. It sounds to me like this is the only time you have ever strayed in any way from your DH. So, really, I think it was just the booze. Alcohol can make people do some pretty crazy things.

My advice to you is to NOT tell DH. Foolish, foolish thing to do. It will solve nothing but alleviate your own guilt, and it's not fair to hurt others to make ourselves feel better. Of course it goes without saying that you now have to evaluate whether you want to continue the friendship with her. The way I see it, you have three choices. You can just pretend like it never happened. Never bring it up, never put yourself in the position to have it happen again. You can sit her down and talk about it. Or you can just basically disappear, which isn't quite fair to her, either. You're going to have to make the call of which you wish to do.

You don't say, but I'm guessing that it was her husband that was the other person involved. Perhaps they are swingers. Maybe you can tell her that you got carried away, but that you really aren't comfortable participating in that kind of a lifestyle again. Doesn't mean you can't still be friends. Just not FWB.

Believe me, you're not the only person that has been in this situation. You're not a freak or anything.