I feel just lost

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Registered: 04-08-2010
I feel just lost
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Mon, 05-24-2010 - 1:03pm

So this is a long story but I need to share it with someone before I lose my mind.


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Registered: 05-03-2010
Mon, 05-24-2010 - 11:11pm

Nothing pulls on your heartstrings like a child!

anotherseyes

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Registered: 04-08-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 8:30am

Thank you.

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 10:21am

Those are all good questions you are asking yourself.

I wonder if he's being honest with his wife and saying that he wants to make it work for their daughter? If he is being honest, I don't foresee her going back to him. If he's saying that he loves her and that you were a mistake - she might be fooled. That would be so unfair to her - she has a right to know the truth of the situation. But there's nothing you can do except urge him to be honest with his wife.

There are many cases across the boards of APs changing their minds and going back to the wife after moving in with APs - sometimes after a year even - and in one case after marrying the AP! You're not alone. Sometimes the reality of living apart from your children is just too heartbreaking.

We can only be your "sounding board" and your support - I wish we could give you the magic "answer" to making everything right, but there never is one.

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Registered: 04-08-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 10:43am

He told me that he is going to tell her the truth.

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Registered: 03-31-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 11:30am

Oh gosh, I am SO sorry!

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Registered: 04-08-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 11:49am

Thanks Purplelilly.

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Registered: 04-23-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 9:58pm

You are certainly on a roller coaster. When you start the up trip again, make your move on him. He will come around again. Don't let your anger make you self-destructive. If you love him, move mountains for him.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 06-27-2000
Fri, 05-28-2010 - 1:46pm

So he called me this week to make sure I was ok.