I feel like my life is over

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2009
I feel like my life is over
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Sat, 01-10-2009 - 1:23am

I have been engaged to the man of my dreams for about 2.5 years.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2007
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 1:38am

Hi MP and welcome -


Honey there is nothing you can do to 'fix' this - the damage has sadly been done.

lightning in my heart

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2008
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 8:48am

Hello mp,


I have absolutely no advice for you on this entirely personal subject.


But I would like to pass along big (((((((HUGS)))))))) and hope that you find peace in your relationships and decisions.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2008
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 11:17am
WOW, I am sorry you are hurting. What I can say is, yes, you have to come clean, if your fiance can deal with it, work through it, great, but it will take time, baby steps. Good luck to you, and keep us posted.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2008
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 11:32am

I'm a little unclear about whether you have told your SO yet or not. I thought you said that you haven't, if that true please let me give you some advice, if you have, then you can disregard the following....

Honey, if you haven't told him yet, DON'T! If you're terminating the pregnancy either way, why hurt him like that? It will only serve to cause problem in your R, and maybe ruin it, if you can, spare him the pain.

Regardless as to whether you terminate the pregnancy or not, he will still look at it as you got pregnant by another man while you were w/ him. That takes the cheating to a whole new level. He won't be able to accept the A as a regular A. It takes on a different flavor if you will. Even though you didn't get pregnant on purpose, or do anything any different then the rest of us, he will view the betrayal worse than had you cheated, and not gotten pregnant. I don't know if that makes any sense to you, but that's how I see it.

I wish you the best of luck.