I feel so used!!!

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Registered: 01-12-2009
I feel so used!!!
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Thu, 06-18-2009 - 1:56pm

Hello All~


Last night I get a call from my sister. She was with a girlfriend looking at some pics of the family when the gal she was with saw a pic of AP and I. She asked my sister how she knew him and proceeded to tell her. The gal told her my AP had been seeing her cousin for 15 years!! WTF???? When I told him what I heard, he said yes that he had been seeing her off and on for some time. I told him that I felt so used. How I feel like another name/ face in his closet. He lashed with "she never should have been sharing her pics!" all he could say was that we started out as friends and that he would like to remain friends &

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Thu, 06-18-2009 - 2:56pm

If you didn't think his wife should know when you thought he was only involved with you, why should she know now? Think really hard... do you want his wife to know because it will hurt him and you'll have revenge, or do you want her to know because it's best for HER. Are you really thinking about her best interests or only about messing up his life?

I'm not saying his wife shouldn't know. All our Hs and Ws should probably know, right? But most of us would go to great lengths to make sure they don't know, because we don't want them hurting.

I think you should walk away from this with head held high (because you'll be taking the high road, not the low, "let's get revenge" road) and never talk to him again. Then let the whole thing go - leave his wife in peace. She might actually already know, but still won't want it thrown in her face - she might prefer to ignore it and keep her life the way it is. Leave her alone and let her handle it whatever way she wants to.

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

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Registered: 10-18-2008
Thu, 06-18-2009 - 5:00pm
I totally agree with Lex.