I fell in love!!!

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Registered: 12-26-2007
I fell in love!!!
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Tue, 08-19-2008 - 1:54pm
Hi everyone, im kinda new here i think i was on here when my affair first started. Anyways I fell so much in love with him and he fell in love with me. We seen each other for about 3-4 months and we was together everyday. Heres my problem, we stopped seeing each other about 3 weeks ago (i ended it) because his wife found out. She knows who i am, we have actually had a conversation about him cheating on her she just didnt know it was me at the time. There is only one house seperating us so i see him everyday and when i do my heart just sinks. He was seeing someone else other than me and i found out, I dont want to get something that i cant wash off. Anyways he gives me this look when i see him like hes trying to say hes sorry with his eyes, and it kills me. How can i stop feeling this way about him? I want to see him but i cant its way to risky now that his wife knows who i am and where i live. No, i say i want to see him but i really dont, i want to look at him like hes just another person. My fiance knows about him, well he dont know everything but he has his thoughts, so when he rides by and looks at me like that my fiance starts asking ?'s. I need some help, i have never had this problem.
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Registered: 03-02-2008
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 2:06pm

"He was seeing someone else other than me and i found out, I dont want to get something that i cant wash off. Anyways he gives me this look when i see him like hes trying to say hes sorry with his eyes, and it kills me. How can i stop feeling this way about him? "

Think about the STD he may have given you - and he didn't even care whether you were at risk.

Then think of his W walking over one house and telling your BF the whole truth. Either before or after she kicks your a$$.

Think about him giving "the look" to at least one other woman - or maybe several more. Sounds like he has had lots of practice.

Think about him telling his friends what a playa he is. and then laughing about how he used you.

And then get angry. And stop looking.

Sorry to sound so harsh but an A is hard enough without another other woman.
autremoi




Edited 8/19/2008 3:02 pm ET by autremoi
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Registered: 08-08-2008
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 2:26pm

Awesome advice autremoi!

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Registered: 02-22-2008
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 2:38pm

You are the one with the highschool sweetheart ? He had a girlfriend, he´s doing you AND a third ? I´m getting confused....

You mentioned that you were in a bad relationship with your H. You have 3 kids, you were right to end the A, not only for you but for your kids. What you have to do now is to decide if you want to stay in the bad M or get out. Not because of xap, cause he´s not worth it, but beause of YOU.


Edwina
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Registered: 12-26-2007
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 9:53pm
You are so right i never thought about that. Thank you so much. I think if i keep those things in mind i will not think about him so much.