I hate the obssessing!

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Registered: 11-16-2009
I hate the obssessing!
Thu, 01-21-2010 - 5:00pm
I have not contacted my SG since our last conversation. For those not knowing my situation, I started an A with SG last April but he runs away then comes back at his whim. After receiving no return email from him I wrote and told him I was leaving him alone that I did not want to bother him and said take care, etc. to make it nice nice. I figure it's all done and he contacts me two nights later like nothing has happened and when i email him the next day to ask why when I specifically told him I wasn't going to contact him anymore he tells me I over think things. We talked a bit but it was obvious he thought I was looking into it too much and I was trying to explain I don't like being treated like I don't exist. He says just to go with the flow, which basically means allow him to do what he wants and just accept it. We both said we wanted FWb but its become obvious to me he just wants a FB. Have sex and leave, no more. While I feel I want more than this, I also enjoy having sex with him so am completely torn. On top of this I looked at his Facebook and he changed his status from sin gle to "it's complicated" He doesn't know I look at it so am wondering if he may have a GF yet he was the one who asked me if I was going to see him when I got there (we live in different states). I have so many different feelings going on! I wish I could just email him but feel like Im "giving in" if I do since he seems to not want that yet I am wondering what the heck is going on. I want sex with him yet I don't want it to be all about sex and him leaving directly after. Am I wrong to feel I should get a little consideration? Do I blow him off completely or see him when I get there (I visit him at work with a friend)? I am all over the place and obsessing about it. I hate that I feel this way. Any advice? Anyone else drive themselves crazy? I think it is ridiculous that I cannot just talk to him without worrying that I am bothering him or he wont respond till he feels like saying hi. So childish! Please give me any advice you can!! I want to walk away but keep thinking about him and the sex.