I have been spoiled - sad right now

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Registered: 05-17-2003
I have been spoiled - sad right now
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Sun, 03-14-2010 - 2:11pm

Hi all,

Things between AP/BF and I have been going quite well lately. When I finally got a job, he was really happy for me. I know it's because he wanted me to have something to do with my time, he's seen how it's been for me...and honestly, I'm pretty sure he's glad that I have something to think about other than him ~ just as I am!

The reason that I'm sad is that he's gone away again for work. It's not like it was on his last job where he was away for two years (off and on). Of course back then I wasn't working, so if there was the opportunity, I was able to drive to where he was in three hours. Now I am working, and he's about two days away so I couldn't see him even if I wanted.

It just hit me now that I'm not going to be seeing him and I have to admit to indulging in a few tears. It's going to be lonely without him.

Okay, crying is over for now....thanks for listening!

benska

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Registered: 08-11-2009
Sun, 03-14-2010 - 11:57pm

Hi Benska,


Well, I may be crying right along with you in the not too distant future.

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Mon, 03-15-2010 - 3:05pm

I'm sorry about your AP's move alive...I would go out of my mind if that happened to me. I'm kind of lucky in that there is NO possibility of him moving away...he might go away for jobs occasionally, but never move.

I sometimes wish the reason my AP won't leave is because his W is unstable, but unfortunately that's just not the case. Egads, how sick is that? Anyhow, a friend called me to go for a walk yesterday and on the way there I saw AP's W....I honestly don't know what I felt, beyond curiosity. I've talked to her in the past (a long time ago when our kids were little) but unless she really knows that I'm having an A with her H, she would have no idea who I am. It got me to thinking about the whole situation again, and I went for another walk....this time past his house. It sunk in, yet again, that my competition is his cute little house, and not his w...the house that he's never going to leave if he can help it. I had to have yet another good cry. I've prayed and prayed, hoping that SHE meets someone who means enough to her to get the heck out of that marriage....how great would that be?

He texted me when he got to his destination to let me know he arrived safe and sound, just like I asked him to do. As much as I know he cares for me, I wish I knew that he loved me as much as I love him...like your AP does! I think it's really wonderful that you have this commitment from him, and I hope it works out exactly the way you hope it does. Please do keep us updated on the status, you know how much we all love happy endings around here!

Take care,

benska

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Registered: 09-07-2009
Mon, 03-15-2010 - 4:10pm

Not many men are willing to leave the house and or kids..I always say it is not the wife it is the life. Some men just don't want to go to work every day and pay the wife to stay in the 'home'....

It is best you accept this dear...I know how this hurts believe me, especially as you have left the life you knew. But women leave, often men don't. So focus on what you did as what you needed to do for you. Look at the new job as an opportunity to branch out and have a fuller life....you need to.

Take Care.