I have been trying to end my EMA

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-26-2003
I have been trying to end my EMA
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Fri, 08-22-2003 - 10:59am
For the past couple of weeks, I have tried to end my EMA. My MM is having a problem with us ending it. I'm trying to do the right thing for him. My M is over. I just have to file for D. He has 2 children, one of them not even 2 yet. I don't think that his M is any where near bad enough for him to leave. I have never asked him to. I just can't be the OW anymore. I need more than the 15 - 20 minutes we have every couple of days. It's very difficult on me too! I am having a problem giving up the one man that has been my heart for the last 7 months. We have had an incredible, passionate, intense relationship for the past 7 months. I don't really know what I expected from the whole A, I know that I will miss him terribly. I guess I keep going back to what I have always said to my friends that are married and have had A's...If there is any love left in the marriage and you have children, you need to atleast try to work things out. That's what I keep telling my MM. I went through several separations with my H before I finally decided I had had enough. My MM is very jealous of a new friend that I have in my life. Almost making me feel guilty about seeing this other man. I don't think it's fair that my MM is pretty much telling me that I can't. Kind of strange. I do love my MM with all of my heart and soul, but I think it's time for me to make him think about what he wants to do with his life. I just don't know what the heck to do anymore!?!?!?!!?!?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2003
Fri, 08-22-2003 - 11:06am
Hey there, well I can tell by your post

you are leaving your M for the right

reasons. You are leaving for you and I

commend you for that. And perhaps a

seperation from MM is what you need to

figure out your own life and perhaps give

him time to think about his life.

Good luck & hang in there! ~passion
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-05-2003
Fri, 08-22-2003 - 11:36am
*sigh* These relationships are so hard, aren't they? I'm in a very similar situation - my EMA and I are both in the middle of a D. He keeps telling me I need to stay and work on my marriage. But I love my OM so much - my heart hurts at the thought of not seeing him and talking to him every day. But we both have young children. I feel like my OM is my soulmate - we just met eachother at the wrong time. I can't give you any words of advice, just that we're here for you. I know it hurts because I feel it every day.