I have done it yet again

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Registered: 10-06-2009
I have done it yet again
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Tue, 11-24-2009 - 10:12pm

So I was doing really well letting go of my XAP. He was being really mean to me because I hurt his pride. But then I text him and he started being nice. I can honestly say there was nothing missing and nothing broken in my marriage and I didnt need an exscape but I still found my self renting a hotel and having sex with my XAP. Im still going to call him my XAP because after this last time there is no going back. I had to pick him up because he is a broke pothead. with no job and no car.

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Wed, 11-25-2009 - 12:57pm

Hi desperate2boverhim,

I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for what you're going through. It must be very hard to think that, not only did he steal from you...but that he's probably been using you all along.

I think it was very mature of you to go straight to your husband, I hope that he will not hold this against you (my H harbored some very bad feelings for a very long time, and in actual fact held my A against me, although he told me he forgave me).

I hope you can move on from this person and build your relationship back up with your H. Good luck to you. I hope the A person doesn't ever get the opportunity to hurt you again.

benska