I have guilt.....

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Registered: 05-21-2003
I have guilt.....
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Wed, 12-17-2003 - 1:16pm
and it's all for the wrong reasons. I asked H for a divorce in August but also asked if I could stay in the house until after Christmas. We still "act" like a family as far as the kids but H and I haven't been intimate or done anything alone together. MM is also in the same position. Him and his wife have seperate bedrooms but are in the process of a divorce. The strange thing is that H asked me if I would go to his Christmas work party with him. I didn't want to but he asked me to go as his friend. I agreed. Now I feel strange telling MM that I am going. I don't even want to tell him. Not that I think he would care. He is a very understanding person and my gosh I'M MARRIED!!! MM and I don't have future plans of marriage or anything but It just feels wierd. I guess because I would be hurt if MM and his wife went to a christmas party. My H and I are great friends. I'm fortunate that MM and his W are barely on speaking terms. It helps. Thanks,

Secret
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Registered: 12-12-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 1:30pm
Because of your children, you H will always be in your life *I know..stating the obvious* It would be a nice gesture to go with him, maintain a cordial relationship..it'll be easier in the long run. As for telling your MM, be tactful and truthful..lord knows you probably don't need any more deciet in your life.
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Registered: 11-20-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 2:16pm
Yeah, I would also go to the Xmas party. After all, you are still friends and always will be for the sake of the kids. I would'nt feel guilty over it.

My boyfriend and I are spliting-up after the holidays, but we have no kids, so its not as complicated as your situation. But we still act like a couple and will always remain friends. So, I guess what I'm saying is...I would go to the X-mas party.