I haven't posted in a long time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
I haven't posted in a long time.
2
Thu, 03-27-2003 - 2:40pm
I just haven't had the energy to post anything for awhile but I have been trying to keep up with everyone. I have had no physical with my MM in a VERY long time and I don't know why. I've given myself a deadline to have him ask to see me. I feel he has a lot of thinking to do and from our past history I'm giving him LOTS of time. If he doesn't call me I will call him and tell him I want to see him and then ask him what in the world happened between us. What I'm hoping some of you can help me with is this: what if he says it was all a mistake and shouldn't have happened so he pulled back. We've known each other for over 5 years and had gotten close (and then not close) for over 2 years. I know I love him. The times we spent together were wonderful. I haven't felt so cared for in my life. I know we weren't a mistake. I guess what I'm asking is - if you were in a relationship and then thought it was a mistake, how long do you think you would be in the relationship before you thought it was a mistake. Have I made any sense? I don't feel like I have. And chances are he won't say that but being the overthinking person I am - I have all these possible scenarios in my head. And I really don't understand what's happened. Sorry for rambling.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-27-2003 - 2:49pm
I think that the answer to that question would probably be up to each individual person. Has he stopped contact all together with no explanation? If he has, depending on how long it's been I would just leave it alone. However if it's only been a short period I would at least give him a call and ask him if you can get together to talk about it. After all we all need closure and it sounds like you need it bad. you sound so down in your post it tends to worry me a bit. You need to snap out of it and realize what a wonderful person you are. Without him. You are not part of him. you are you. Cheer up and we'll be here if you need us. ....hooked
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-27-2003 - 2:57pm
Thanks for your prompt reply! I appreciate it. He emails me periodically (he sent me four on Tuesday) - but doesn't mention anything about our past. Pretty much he just forwards jokes or things about the war. Things were going great until the holidays, and that's when his W came to visit him and their adult son (she lives in another state).