I jumped off the fence!!!!!

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Registered: 05-21-2003
I jumped off the fence!!!!!
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Tue, 01-13-2004 - 2:46pm
I finally put an offer on a condo. I'm signing the divorce papers this week. It's sad but also comforting. You wouldn't believe the relief it has been to make my decision final. My relationship with H is even better now that we are working on just being friends and not man and wife. I felt so much presuure to be his wife. I worked so hard to make myself believe that I could stay with him forever. I'm finally happy for once. H and I have a great schedule for our son and the condo is just around the corner from his house. I have a great look out on life.

I've been trying to not keep MM totally informed. I don't want to change our relationship at all just yet. He's STILL married. So he's gonna get it all laid out for him. It's her or me. I knew he was planning on divorcing her before we hooked up but if he's going to hang around any longer he better get the divorce. I'm in this life for ME now. And my kids of course! Being married and with a MM man seems so different than being single woth a mm man. Do you think?

Thanks

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-13-2004 - 3:44pm
hey secret -- congratulations girl!! damn, a divorce, new condo AND a mutual admiration society with your xH -- god, it's good to be you!! and i mean every word too!!!!

listen, be demanding and tell MM to sh%t or get off the pot (you!) because you're a free woman to do whatever you want, whenever you want. if MM was going to get divorced before you came into the picture, why isn't he divorced then??!

it's time to call his bluff, honey. i hope you get the answer you want!!

gurl

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Registered: 05-21-2003
Tue, 01-13-2004 - 4:32pm
Thanks, Gurl. You have been kind of a role model for me over these past months. I finally realized that life is just to short to be unhappy. I feel bad for MM. But I can't do the SW/MM thing either. I'm to tired. When I told H that I didn't love him anymore I think he already knew it. I also don't think I was everything he wanted in a wife either. We've had some long talks and he's confessed some feelings that I knew he had all along. Yesterday he actually told me in a very calm voice that he wanted to choke me to death. I was behaving badly over stress. Anywho, when MM told the old bag that he wanted a D she told him to get ready for the fight of his life. Not to appealing. I think some guys just stay out of not wanting to deal with a crazy woman. It's easier!!!! At least I "USED" to think that. Thanks again.

L
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-14-2004 - 2:42pm