i just got dumped...

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Registered: 01-04-2009
i just got dumped...
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Sun, 02-08-2009 - 12:28pm

I got an email from AP today--that's the only way we communicate unless we're together....

He told me that he's been thinking about things and he just can't continue. We've been together since November, I know, not that long, but we emailed each other constantly through the day, found out alot about each other that way. I saw him at least once a week sometimes twice. I knew I was starting to get attached to him and he did tell me that he was having a hard time separating his emotions from the sex. I didn't know what to say to that, so I let it go.

Lately we'd been having some deep discussions about our marriages, I think it bothered him how hurt I was about my H cheating on me. I know, call me a hypocrite, it's a long story, sigh....

Anyway, we did touch a little on that, he said he wouldn't want to hurt his wife that way....but that was about a month ago, I figured he had it all worked out...the last time we were together he asked me how someone who knew him for 15 years doesn't really know him. He was unhappy with her emotionally as well as sexually.

So today he emails me and says that he didn't want to put his wife thru the pain I'm enduring and that he didn't want to put his kids thru the change that would certainly occur if we were discovered...

I know I'm rambling, I'm just really hurting right now....

Thx for listening--

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Registered: 01-04-2009
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 7:51am

Yes, I agree, I think he will continue to communicate but keep it friendly. I can't do that, it's a no win situation for me.

It would just hurt me too much to talk to him, all I would want is to be with him.

For him, it's fulfilling an emotional need, one he doesn't get at home.

I just can't do it. Thanks for you thoughts! This is going to be very hard, I enjoyed our email exchanges, much more than I realized.

By the way, I LOVE the obx. We go there every summer!

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Registered: 01-04-2009
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 7:55pm

There was nothing graceful about me today, lol.

I checked my email hourly hoping that he did email me, hoping that he didn't email me.

Ugh....he didn't email me.

Hopefully tomorrow will be better....

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 8:19pm

I've been there honey!

 

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Registered: 01-04-2009
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 10:06pm

That wasn't me that said that, although it's true, well, except for the loving him part, I didn't get quite that far, lol, although it was coming. I was starting to fall for this guy, which takes me by surprise, I thought my H was the end all, be all...

Thx again for your support!!

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