I just got slapped across my face!

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Registered: 05-10-2004
I just got slapped across my face!
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Mon, 05-10-2004 - 3:46pm
Recently I wrote for some advice. I just got off the phone with him (schmuck)and I feel like I just got slapped. I haven't seen him since Mar.5th due to his extreme busy schedule at work. He lives extremely close to me, has my cell number but still he won't pick up a phone to call me. For years, I have asked him to meet me half way but he refuses to. Well, he just told me in order for him to meet me half way, he wants me to hold off calling him and when that happens he will pick up a phone and call me. What does that say .... "Don't call us we call you!"

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 9:32am
This man will never treat you the way you want and deserve, you do understand this, don't you? I hope you end it with him, and soon - in all honesty, you've put up with this crap 14 years longer than you should have. Get out before your self-esteem is totally ruined and you feel completely worthless.
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Registered: 03-30-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 3:16pm
meadow, honey, why do you put up with this man's selfish, disrespectful, nasty behavior -- and don't you dare say "because i love him"! he doesn't love you. in fact, he couldn't mistreat you more unless he was actually physically hitting you!! please end this R (if you can call it that) now. please stop begging for his tiny grains of attention -- you are surely better off without him in your life. i'm sorry to be so blunt, but this man has NOTHING to offer you. NOTHING!

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Registered: 04-14-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 3:32pm
Meadow-

There are only three things I have asked of my MM, and those things are honesty, kindness, and communication. These things are unwritten requirements with ANYONE I allow into my life. I was pretty clear, that for this to work, he would have to think long and hard about his ability to give them to me. If he had any doubts about meeting those requirements, then save both of us the heartache and tell me before things went much further. He said he could, and has up to this point. But this much I can tell you, the day he can't meet them is the day I get rid of him. I know I deserve at least that much others, if they are unable to meet those very basic requirements, then they have no place in my life. I have been my H's emotional landfill for too long, and now there is room for no more.

Sometimes the most important words a woman can say are "No" and "Good bye".

Be strong.

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