I know the answer but can't let it go

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
I know the answer but can't let it go
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Sat, 12-06-2008 - 10:33pm

I guess I'm looking for the answer to come out and bite me. LOL


I wonder how many AP's there are that really have NC during weekends ever.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2008
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 12:28am
When my AP is home (he travels 20 days, is home 10 days), we are almost completely NC -- and I never call him or question if he can't call me.
Carrrrrried...away2
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 7:36am

Your not harsh at all.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 7:52am

You are not the only one who would do this; i.e. hang on, when there doesn't seem like much to hang onto.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 10:53am

Wow I want to write more to you but I'm short on time.


Your post speaks volumns to me.


Thank you so much


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2007
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 11:09am
7 years is a long time. god bless.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 2:39pm

Your situation sounds very hard to ever break free from.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2007
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 4:53pm
I know how you feel , with me this has went on for years. It was 9 years in sept. I would love to email and chat with both of you more , I could use some advice.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 6:23pm

It's confusing for me.


Esp when he is at work (like today) I know for a fact he can email me without the W knowing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 7:46pm

There was more contact in the beginning;

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2008
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 10:36pm

My EAP and I have been talking for almost a year now. We never talk on weekends. He is married, I am married and I have children, and we respect each others time with family. He also is extremely careful and will only talk to me during the day while at work and even that is not too often. We may go days without being in contact, but we know we each are still there.


We have known each other since we were in junior high and I am now thirty. We will always be there for one another in some way. I would love to talk more, but we may be in contact a few times in a week and then go over a week or more with nc.


I am learning to just enjoy the time we do talk and just enjoy his friendship. I am learning to control my emotions. It's hard, but it has to be done.


I keep myself busy with my life, my family, work. I have decided to pull back some, let him come to me.


good luck.

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