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I live with the other man and my H
| Thu, 01-15-2009 - 1:18pm |
I have a very delicate situation right now and really need advice and strength.
| Thu, 01-15-2009 - 1:18pm |
I have a very delicate situation right now and really need advice and strength.
Exchange student?????
As in HIGH SCHOOL exchange student????
Are you kidding??
So sorry - he is a junior in college.
I don't blame him for backing out. He knows that he is the one that will get the boot (and possibly his butt kicked) in the event that you two are discovered. For real you are playing w/ fire. Like I told someone else in another thread, of all the calls that I respond to it's those damn domestic violence calls that are the worst. You can never predict how someone will react to such news. Your H could kirk out, and kill both of you. Not to mention what your teenage kids will think of you if they find out what their mom has been up to. They are old enough to understand, and I think that if you're found out it would create some serious hostility, and resentment in them. Shoot, teenagers are hostile, and resentful for no apparent reason. Imagine what this would do to them.
Having said all that I can fully appreciate the fact that he has made you feel things that you haven't felt in a long time, and that you are craving more, but you have to put yourself in check. I know the EXTREME excitement that comes w/ an AP's touch. I know what it feels like to think about nothing but him, and crave him w/ all your being, but even under the best circumstances you know he's leaving soon. It will be MUCH more painful for you to share the next 3 months together, and then he leaves. Trust me, emotions form much more quickly in an A then in normal relationships, or so it seems to me by the posts on this board.
I truly empathize w/ what your going through, but you have made a mistake, don't compound that mistake w/ another mistake. I hope that you have the strength to do the right thing. The right thing for you, AND your family. Best wishes.
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