I made a HUGE Mistake....
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I made a HUGE Mistake....
| Mon, 09-08-2008 - 7:14pm |
Hey Everyone....
I am the worst friend in the world... I kissed and got a little touchy feely with my best-friends husband....There is no justification for what happened... I could say I was drunk and in a vulnerable state of mind; but honestly that is no justification for what I did... and now I feel sick to my stomach

You made a mistake. You're sorry about it. It didn't go as far as it could have. Put it behind you and NEVER allow yourself to be in a situation where it could happen with this man again!
But think about it. A kiss and "touchy feely" doesn't come out of nowhere. When did it start? When was the first time one of you flirted and the other flirted back? When was the first time one of you brought up an inappropriate subject "out of earshot" of the rest of the group? Who started to talk too personally to the other? When people say something "just happened" or they were drunk and it just happened, usually there's already been some "groundwork".
Make sure you remain strictly cordial with this guy from now on. Don't be alone in a room with him. Don't look at him flirtatiously. If he compliments you thank him just like you would if a co worker complimented you. If he tries to start an inappropriate conversation change the subject. If he makes remarks that he thinks you'll understand and appreciate act as if they're going over your head. Don't give him any reason to feel like you might be attracted to him in any way.
I wouldn't tell your friend. If you truly mean that it will NEVER happen again, you can continue to be her friend, and she might need you.
Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.
You've got a lot of choices. I
******************************************* “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over againlexione,
Thank you very much...you're right there has been "ground work"... I mean she met him then
If you don't mind, can I ask you a question?
Imagine this scenario and tell me what you would do: You're out somewhere and you see this man (your best friend's husband) and he is with another woman. No big deal. Then they start to kiss and become very affectionate.
Would you tell your friend about this? Do you think as his wife, she has a right to know? Would she be hurt if she found out about it and then later learned that you already knew but didn't tell her? Do you think she deserves to make a decision about her future and marriage with all of the information present (including the fact that her best friend and husband made out with each other)?
mykate08...
I have thought of everything and maybe I am being a lil bias by not telling her cause its me who did it not a random women....but the truth is and I have said this before and I stick by it and I think if its going to hurt me and not change things don't tell me... There is some information I could go my whole like with out knowing...
I think if she hadn't already questioned him about cheating and in her heart feels that he has then I would tell her, but knowing that she has looked passed it I know that if I tell her I will lose her and that scares me... I have seen this happen so many times the other person always looks like the bad person and gets the wrong end of the stick... If I felt that we would both be put in our place I would have already told her...but I know I will lose everything and that is something I can't handle and I know its not about me, but thats how I feel..
She has every right to know so she can make her own decision, but I already know what its going to be so why hurt her and put this burden on her?