I messed up

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Registered: 06-16-2010
I messed up
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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 7:55pm

I really messed up :( My emotions really took over and I had a burning desire to know where we stood. I called him but luckily the phone got disconnected after I told him I had a question. He asked me why I didn't ask him in the office when we were talking but I told him it wasn't a question that I could have asked in front of others. He asked me to tell him the question and then the phone got disconnected. I don't know what to say when he asks me tomorrow what I wanted to ask him. It hurts so much that he doesn't flirt with me anymore but still treats me like a very, very good friend.

I wish my emotions would just die and I could get over this.

I wish I could talk to my friends and sister about this, but they would just judge me and yell at me for breaking down and calling him.

I'm hurting so much right now :(




Edited 6/17/2010 7:57 pm ET by imsoconfusednow
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Registered: 05-03-2010
Thu, 06-17-2010 - 10:31pm

I'm sorry; I know it's hard :(.


If you no longer want to ask him, that's fine.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Fri, 06-18-2010 - 1:49am
I don't think it sounds like you messed up.
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Registered: 02-11-2006
Fri, 06-18-2010 - 9:20am

Hi, You didn't mess up. I have been in the exact same boat. I pushed, he backed off. I have discovered this. If a person wants to keep an affair A going, you have to look at it realistically.

But being the creatures we are, a womans heart seems to steer us in the direction of our dreams. So....

We have to remember where we stand and where we fit in his life. Yes, we deserve to know where we stand, but I think in most cases we already know where we stand.

I also think if we have to ask, we already know. So as I have read here before, only you can decide what you can and can not handle. That is the point then when you decide if you are keeping the affair going or stepping away from it.

Hugs to you :) I feel your pain, and deal with my own from time to time too. Keeping things realistic helps.

LIFE IS A ROLLER COASTER!!! When you hit curves hold on....when you go up hill be patient....when you go down fast....throw your hands up....scream, hold your breath.....and rush back to get in line again. Life keeps moving, so should you!!